PositivelyDetermined Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 3 months ago I went to work. Me and my girlfriend were argueing a lot because I cheated on her 5 times in the past. We had a big talk about it and I told her the truth. I continued to tell her the truth no matter what I did. I was happy being honest and felt stress free. Anyways she had been working in the mines up north since July and in October I found a camp job somewhere else. Before halloween she had sex with a guy there that she really liked. She knew he was married and knowingly did it. Then again a second time the next time she went back. The place she works is plane access only. She admitted what happened after I BUSTED her sextexting some guy in the states(I live in canada). I was angry and phoned her just before I got home and asked her if sextexting was all she did. She dropped the bombshell on me and I flipped out. I felt like all my hopes dreams and happiness went out the window. She then told me that she just went to watch a movie with her friends in the guys room and she had fallen asleep. I believed her and forgave her for it. I thought she was being honest. This was before Xmas. I became very suspicious because her story kept changing about what happened and she was always deleting her texts so I made a fake facebook and contacted the guys wife and told her what happened. She was destroyed and left him. We recieved a call from a woman she'd worked with and she asked so many questions and said that a distraught woman called her crying lots asking her if it was true. I begin to pry more and she spilled the beans completely. She slept with her friends buddy, supposedly she didn't do anything. Then she slept with, before Xmas, the same guy 2 times and she lied to me involving all her friends and I sent out texts apologizing them but by then her friends already hated me. I don't care about that anymore. I have 1 kid and she has 3 of her own. When I look at her she is completely ashamed. When we make love she doesn't seem to impressed nor does she enjoy it but pretends she does. What do we do? I feel like a loser and an idiot. I should have just left years ago... I don't think she want's me and I don't think she's being totally honest with me. She lied about everything like 5 times. How do I know if she hasn't done this before? There were times in the past I was suspicious about her but I don't like worrying about those things so I just asked and then brushed it off. Sooo.... What do you figure people? Should I take my son and leave her alone now? I feel like I don't please her anymore and I am starting to become aware of all the possibilities out there but I feel like Im going to really miss her.
imagine Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 Hmm. Two cheaters, one honest and one not. Sure, life will be perfect!
collegeguy_24 Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 Personally, I think you got what you deserved. Its called karma. But now that karma has come and kicked you in the rear, now comes the part where you learn from your mistakes. For one, dump her. It will do the both of you some good as neither of you should be with each other, that much is obvious. Second: Start dating other women again, and this time, don't cheat.
Space Ritual Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 Yep that Karma Bus has many wheels...lol. Harsh this will sound, but frankly you need to understand that we do get what we put into relationships. Cheating on a woman multiple times and then just expecting to continue in the relationship because you have an epiphany about honesty is proof positive that you lack the maturity to be in any kind of committed relationship at this point in time. I take it you are fairly young. In the interim I would suggest you and your GF cut your respective losses and move on. You both need to put you children first. You reap what you sow and it came back to you in spades. The relationship was dead long ago...do everyone involved a favor and please just end it.
Author PositivelyDetermined Posted January 30, 2011 Author Posted January 30, 2011 I will just leave thanks guys. Life will get better and now this gives me a chance to have more money and persue my own interests. You ever meet someone that just let's you sprawl out and be who you are? Someone that just lets you be? That's what she was to me. It's better to just leave and stay away I think. And you guys are right, its been over for a long long time already. I feel bad and I am only biding time because I have no where for me and my son to go. But it would be more damaging to just stay put. thanks for your input guy's.
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