Bingo999 Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 (edited) In September, my friends and I met a group of British guys at a bar (we are in NYC). As the night progressed, my roommate and I started to really hit it off with two of them. We decided to bring them back with us (which we never do!) and I clearly told them we weren't going to sleep with them. We all watched TV and then went to bed. We were intimate but didn't sleep together (I don't usually sleep with men unless I'm in a committed relationship.) After we made out, we laid together in my bed watching the sunrise, cuddling and talking. It was one of the most amazing nights I have ever had. We slept about an hour and we were up talking again. He said he was thinking of moving to NY (his job has offices here) and I told him my friends and I were planning a Europe trip for the spring. His friend kept coming in the room wanting him to leave (roommate and friend did not end up clicking) so he had to go. We exchanged Facebooks. I didn't hear from him when he was still here for the next 3 days so I messaged him saying I hope they had a good trip and it's too bad we couldnt get together again. He said he was sorry and was going to suggest lunch but it just didn't happen. He said he hoped that my trip would still happen and maybe this gave me an excuse to move it up. We messaged back and forth (general life updates, etc) every month until last week. We ended up Facebook chatting for 4 hours and he had me download some app so we could text. We have been texting every day non-stop. He always messages me first (he knows what time I get to work). We are both really looking forward to seeing each other and he has asked me out on a date for when I'm there. We had our first Skype "date" last night that lasted 45 minutes and it was so great. He's also said things that he understands how hard it is to get away from your group on vacation but he'd love to spend as much time with me (and my friends) as I can offer him and he'd like to see me as soon as possible. He says he wishes I lived there so he could date me properly and that there's a chance he may end up moving here. I told him to stop telling me that unless it's definitely happening. He agreed that our night was so great and it seemed like we had known each other a long time. He goes back and forth from saying "it's going to be so fun!... You're so attractive" to "there's definitely a connection," "this early in our relationship... etc" to me these seem like two different intentions. So I guess my question is more like what's going on? I'm SO excited to see him. He's so respectful and funny. How do I handle this? I'm so scared to go there and fall in love. He already knows I won't sleep with him (however I am starting to reconsider...) so I think this is a lot of effort for a night or two of 3rd base. I'm already starting to fall hard (if I'm being honest, I started the first night we spent) and I'm so afraid of getting my heart broken and I don't know how this can go well since he's across the world (although he does come to the US a few times a year) but I'm also weary to let such a strong connection go. Edited January 29, 2011 by Bingo999
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