usababe Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 I started working with this guy a few months ago, I was a bit shy around him to begin with as I am with most guys at first but as we got chatting I became more comfortable with him and I felt he was beginning to flirt with me, it's weird I just suddenly felt this chemistry between us he was asking me when I was going on vacation (I didn't even tell him I was going so I don't know how he found out), he told me about when he went there and jokingly asked if he could come with me. He asked about my family and where I was living etc... The next morning he asked me if I had read a particular book on that destination and I said no so he offered to let me borrow it which I thought was nice. The following day he kept walking past me just saying random things and seemed a bit awkward and later we were standing in a small group, he was handing me something for work and stood right up against me so our arms were squashed aganst eachother. I felt a bit embarrassed with everyone there so I moved over a little as it was a huge room and there was plenty of space. Anyway today I came into work and he barely looked at me and I bumped into him in a shopping mall after and I think he saw me and got awkward and walked into a store. Anyone have any idea why it's become awkward since things were just becoming good between us? Does it sound like he was flirting in the first place? I always thought I was pretty good at reading the vibes but now he's making me doubt myself
Mavisse Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 Well, I'm pretty useless at knowing whether someone is flirting... but here's what I did: I re-read your post, and I pretended the guy was a new girl at your work. When I read it that way, she just sounded really friendly, and maybe a bit clumsy with the arm-squishing stuff. So then, my guess is he was possibly flirting, or possibly just trying to make friends.
anne1707 Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 I felt a bit embarrassed with everyone there so I moved over a little as it was a huge room and there was plenty of space. Sounds like he was flirting and above is the reason why he has backed off. You moving away would suggest to him that you are not interested. If you do still like him, why not ask if he wants to go for a coffee after work one day.
Seamless74 Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 Yeah heres the thing he probably is... But it sucks especially being at work.. Hes probably thinking man.. shes kinda cute id love to get to know her, but were at work so if it doesnt work out I blow the whole thing up I might get in trouble or things may go awkward, I wanna let her know how I feel but gotta be careful about everyone else noticing. Lots of stuff like that its a really hard situation for a guy to be in. and then your genius move of moving away didnt help... If your really interested in this guy your gonna have to warm up quick and help facilitate the process show interest in him and hint about getting together outside of work.. In the real world outside of work its expected he make most of the moves and be the agressor, but at work its a different environment and the guy has to be way more careful.. in other words you gotta help him out and not be an ice queen. But all that being said its probably a bad idea to proceed anyway because of the work situation.
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