love_xs Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 Whhen speaking on the phone with people i never run out of topics to discuss. when i start a new relationship with a person i expect a phone call or 2 every other day. i really dont demand it but when your trying to get closer, hearing a persons voice is better than texting. in my current relationship the guy im talking to DOES NOT like talking on the phone. the only time we talk on the phone is when hes at my door. It irritates me because he has such a dreamy voice.. i love hearing it. we text all the time and im getting annoyed by it. i brought it up but he insists he doesnt like it and from what i read here i guesss some ppl just freeze up on the phone. Now...if i were seeing him everyother day or maybe once or twice each week i wouldnt care too much about outside communication. this isnt the case because i hardly see him. i know his feelings and he knows mine but its hard to express them through texting. its just too impersonal.. i would rather just not text him at all. i just want to know why its hard for some people to talk on the phone
Broseph321 Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 I find it a challenge to talk with my girlfriend on the phone because I get all shy and can't think of things to talk about, which can lead to some awkward moments. I wish I wasn't like it but I am. I love hearing her voice but I feel so silly because I can't respond back with anything other than "yeah" "ok" etc. I understand your frustration though. In my last relationship my partner would not talk on the phone AT ALL, and we were in a long distance relationship. Some people are just uncomfortable with talking on the phone. You need to accept that or move on.
Jannah Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 Whhen speaking on the phone with people i never run out of topics to discuss. when i start a new relationship with a person i expect a phone call or 2 every other day. i really dont demand it but when your trying to get closer, hearing a persons voice is better than texting. in my current relationship the guy im talking to DOES NOT like talking on the phone. the only time we talk on the phone is when hes at my door. It irritates me because he has such a dreamy voice.. i love hearing it. we text all the time and im getting annoyed by it. i brought it up but he insists he doesnt like it and from what i read here i guesss some ppl just freeze up on the phone. Now...if i were seeing him everyother day or maybe once or twice each week i wouldnt care too much about outside communication. this isnt the case because i hardly see him. i know his feelings and he knows mine but its hard to express them through texting. its just too impersonal.. i would rather just not text him at all. i just want to know why its hard for some people to talk on the phone Maybe try to spend more time together (you say you hardly see each other so I presume it's a long distance relationship and/or you both have different schedules which doesn't afford much time together in person). That's hard, so I could see why it would bother you. Try to talk a few times each week on the phone and mix it up with text, email, IM, facebook, writing love letters, send each other cute cards, etc.
Nexus One Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 (edited) The anticipation of a of phone call can cause stress. I've noticed it in business, when you sometimes know you have to perform(not act) on the spot during an anticipated phone call, then it can feel like you have to give a presentation before an audience and you can't mess it up otherwise it can cost you dearly. Edited January 30, 2011 by Nexus One
phineas Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 EVERY time without fail, if I give a woman phone time she seems to have less incentive to spend time with me. Then before I know it i'm her emotional tampon. Or they loose interest because i'm sitting home alone like a looser waiting for their call instead of living my own life. So from now on, if they want to talk to me it will be in person.
january2011 Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 In terms of communication, I value: in-person > phone > email > text. If we can't see each other face-to-face, I prefer a phone call or an email. Text is such a low-grade form of communication, in my opinion, that I don't care for it much and in this modern world of dating, it frustrates me to no end when a guy's preferred method of contact is texting.
depplover_1980 Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 I have just posted this on another thread but most men do not like talking for the sake of it. Especially if he is a logical thinker, he will just deem it as unneccessary! Can you not have 5 min chats every couple of days as a compromise?
Anxiety Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 I don't like talking on the phone. I feel uncomfortable. I'm not a very talkative guy so that's probably why I don't like it. But in person I can see peoples expressions...and moments of silence are ok in person...on the phone 5 seconds of silence can feel like an eternity.
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