tigressA Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 I can tell within 10 seconds if I would want to f*ck the guy, based on looks alone. Whether or not anything deeper than that occurred would be dependent on intellectual/emotional connections. I have gone through the "feeling iffy about someone and having them grow on you" thing, with my one ex. And I dated him for almost 2 years, my longest relationship so far. Maybe there's something to that.
OceanGirl Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 I know within the first few seconds if he is doable or not. If he is not, no amount of engaging would make me want him. I have tried that and had guys that I had superb intellectual connection with but no go. If he is doable then if I don't like the personality it may make me lose attraction. Emotional/intellectual connection grow simultaneously with me. I probably place more value on the emotional. If both are there, then I fall in love Physical has to be there first or I feel no excitement in seeing him. I may as well go out with my brother. My current bf is my type to the T. 6'6" and 220lbs of pure muscle (I can't look at his body enough when naked - he is in better shape than I am) with dark brown hair and green eyes. Overall, his body is probably slightly better than his face. Based on the OP - I am not sure if you can get further with this guy if he doesn't do it for you.
East7 Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 IME if I put a range of 0-100% physical attraction, I would say I give a chance to any women who attracts me at least 50%. If she is smart and we find some connection/chemistry, the physical attraction will grow very fast. I probably will end up finding her super hot. Either way if I see a fantastic 8, 9 or 10 and when I talk with her I find her to be an idiot, my attraction will drop instantly. I have always been attracted to women who look like women I had previously loved...It was like I was looking for an xGF similar face. I think through dating experiences we record in our brain a register of attractive traits. It doesn't mean they are exclusive but we tempt to be attracted to the same type of face we were used to. OP, I think if the guy is physically average (50%) in your eyes, you may very well find him attractive if he has a great personality.
tinktronik Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 I can tell within 10 seconds if I would want to f*ck the guy, based on looks alone. Whether or not anything deeper than that occurred would be dependent on intellectual/emotional connections. I am amazed at the variations of responses from women here. I have NEVER experienced a sexual leaning toward a man without other factors in place. Sure, I can see if someone is attractive or a range but it just doesn't get my "dander" up enough to want to have sexual contact with them.
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