simpsonic Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 Hello from a longtime lurker and first time poster. *waves* This is a bit long so bear with me... So I joined OKC almost 2 weeks ago and this guy messages me. He seemed pretty cool so I wrote him back and this went on for a few days. On the fourth day he asked me for my number which I gladly gave out. He sent me a text the next day saying hi. We chatted for a few more days then he asked me if I was free that weekend. I told him that Friday and Saturday were not good for me as I already had plans with some girlfriends, but I was free on Sunday. He said Sunday would be difficult for him as he had something going on that day. I said okay that was fine and decided to do my own thing. Well, Sunday night came around and I got another text from him saying, "So you want to hang out tonight?" I was like, I thought you had plans. He didn’t respond for a while, then he asked me if I wanted to meet him or not. Well, I was in my pajamas at this point and getting ready for bed, and I told him that night wasn’t a good time for me but I was free Monday night. He was like, "Ugh OK." So Monday night came. He texted me again and asked if I still wanted to hang out that night. I said yes I was free. He suggested that I meet at his house. I told him I wasn’t comfortable with that idea and suggested meeting at a public place instead and asked him what time would be good for him. No response. 2 hours later I still hadn’t heard from him so I texted, "?". Still no response. At this point I just said screw it and stayed home. The next day he sent me a text saying he was sorry but a friend was in the hospital and wanted to make sure she was okay. My gut feeling was telling me that was a complete lie, as I’ve been fed lines like that before. I didn’t reply. The day after that he was like, "So you’re not talking to me now?" I didn’t want to reply as I was still peeved, but decided I should say something. I told him what he did wasn’t cool and he didn’t offer an explanation until it was too late. Then I said I was no longer interested, goodbye. As much as I wanted to curse him out, I said all this in a civil manner because I didn’t want to waste my energy on some stranger. Well, he got very defensive! He was like, "Well you weren’t able to meet with me either so that was totally lame on your part." WTF? My plans were made far in advance, way before I even joined OKC, and I don’t ever ditch my girlfriends for a guy at that. AND I told him why I couldn’t do it right then and there. He didn’t even have the decency to at least let me know he couldn’t meet up with me that Monday night. It doesn’t take more than a few seconds to send a short text. Instead he waited another day. And he said I was being lame. Pssh, whatever. After that I decided that he was a bonafide *******. I already had a weird feeling when he suggested that we meet as his house, but I kinda put it in the back of my mind. The way he acted after that just confirmed he wasn't someone I wanted to meet. I deleted his number. He texted me yet again today saying, "So you really don't want to talk to me? I said I was sorry." I was thinking to myself: Um, I already told you I wasn't interested anymore and didn't reply to your last text, do you not get the hint?? I haven't replied. What do you guys think of this whole situation? Should I even bother replying? Or just leave it be?
Nexus One Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 Those are a lot of shady facts in a row. There are 6 scenarios here in my opinion: 1. He's not very smart. 2. He's up to no good. 3. He's playing games or toying with you. 4. There has been a very unfortunate chain of events. 5. Major miscommunication has taken place. 6. A combination of any of the above.
EricaH329 Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 If you have no desire to meet up with him (which it sounds like you don't at this point), I would just leave it be. I wonder if the outcome of Monday night would have been the same, had you agreed to meet up at his house. That's not appropriate for a first time meet up. I don't blame you that you don't want to speak with him anymore.
Crimson and Clover Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 Hey, it's the Anti-Prince Charming. Hard to believe you're passing this douchebag up.
SunsetRed Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 He's an ********* with no life and nothing to offer. He expects you to not have a life or anything else in your schedule because he doesn't. He also has nothing to offer you dating wise, so he's one of those "hey, can u cum over" type of guys. He also expects you to be free and "spontaneous" to come meet his needs, but if you had any needs of your own, like say Valentine's Day, which is coming up, he'd accuse you of being too clingy and demanding. Cut him loose and don't look back.
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