Riversong Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 Before I joined this site I had been fighting with my feelings, trying to understand what went wrong and now I realise I was a rebound, I didn't know what that was before I joined the site, I had to look it up online and it all now falls into place. He left his wife, we were in a ldr for 2 years. He lived over an hours drive away from me and his son so I helped him to find a place close by, helped him find a new job, helped him to decorate his home. After a couple of months he joined an outdoor activity group which he went to 2-3 times a week, then another, then another, I asked him to please not join anything else as it was affecting our time together. For my birthday I booked us a surprise weekend away and the morning we were to go he asked if I could bring my laptop - why? so he could do some work!! And when I think back there were other things said or done that really should have made me realise he didn't love me the way I loved him. Love is blind. A couple of months before he dumped me I noticed his MSN picture had changed to a pretty cool shot of him, I said I noticed when I was on hotmail that you had changed your photo, he said I don't use hotmail, it must have been changed when the pc was in for repair, he didn't realise that it was linked to MSN He left me for another woman who left her husband coincidentally a month after the MSN photo was changed. He moved her into his home 4 months later. So now I know I was a rebound, and it hurts like h*ll. 3 years of my life for someone who used me to get what he wanted. No wonder he thanked me for being so good to him. I have finally had my closure, but like I said it hurts..... a lot.
Guitarjeff Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 So sorry to hear you are in such pain. Sounds like we are in the same boat. I live in Tennessee and my girlfriend (former now) in southern England. She was just out of a long marriage and I too now realize I was a rebound as well. It is so devastating to have to accept this was never what we thought it was. I am a musician and I had actually spent all day Monday on writing and recording a song for my SO and we got on Skype to spend our one year mark together and celabrate, I gave her the song, and later in the conversation we end up breaking up. Here is the song if you would like to listen. http://soundclick.com/share.cfm?id=10130597 Try to be strong, we will make it through this nightmare. Jeff Before I joined this site I had been fighting with my feelings, trying to understand what went wrong and now I realise I was a rebound, I didn't know what that was before I joined the site, I had to look it up online and it all now falls into place. He left his wife, we were in a ldr for 2 years. He lived over an hours drive away from me and his son so I helped him to find a place close by, helped him find a new job, helped him to decorate his home. After a couple of months he joined an outdoor activity group which he went to 2-3 times a week, then another, then another, I asked him to please not join anything else as it was affecting our time together. For my birthday I booked us a surprise weekend away and the morning we were to go he asked if I could bring my laptop - why? so he could do some work!! And when I think back there were other things said or done that really should have made me realise he didn't love me the way I loved him. Love is blind. A couple of months before he dumped me I noticed his MSN picture had changed to a pretty cool shot of him, I said I noticed when I was on hotmail that you had changed your photo, he said I don't use hotmail, it must have been changed when the pc was in for repair, he didn't realise that it was linked to MSN He left me for another woman who left her husband coincidentally a month after the MSN photo was changed. He moved her into his home 4 months later. So now I know I was a rebound, and it hurts like h*ll. 3 years of my life for someone who used me to get what he wanted. No wonder he thanked me for being so good to him. I have finally had my closure, but like I said it hurts..... a lot.
Author Riversong Posted January 28, 2011 Author Posted January 28, 2011 Thanks for that Jeff. I had a listen to your song. It must have been difficult, writing that song and then breaking up. Some things in life are sent to try us but it makes us stronger. And in years to come it will be a distant memory......
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