Am I overreacting/expecting too much? would like some input...

[blugirl]

Ok so the situation is, we havent met yet so we arent officially in a relationship but agreed that we are exclusive for each other and everything would be ok but there's sth that's bugging me He has rather original and sarcastic sense of humour and sometimes he would throw a rather inappropriate very flirty line randomly towards our common girl friends on FB so that I see it, too

They don't treat it seriously and just laugh it out but nevertheless, it's not comfortable for me. But do I even have the right to complain about it to him since we arent even in a proper relationship ? Wont it seem too clingy or something? One of our common friends, the only one who knows what's going on between me and him said that he just wants to make me jealous (I never show any jealousy about anyone and I'm not a clingy type) but idk what to think about that.... some comments would be appreciated, thanks.

[folieadeux]

If this is really just a personality quirk of his, I wouldn't read anymore into it. I'm not trying to justify it; some people just have a habit of not thinking sometimes. If it bothers you that much, talk to him about it. You've already had the chat in regards to you being exclusive, so I don't really see the harm in gently mentioning how his comments, even though intended as a joke, can be bothersome to you.

 

Do you have any plans on meeting any time soon? People are often totally different in person than they portray themselves to be online. Spending time together in person is really the only way you'll get to have a true sense of his personality, quirks and all, and then you can consider this a true relationship if you intend to pursue it further.

[MissKnowitall]

Exclusive as in not seeing others? I'm puzzled as to how you can make that type of leap if you haven't met yet.

 

Plus you are already feeling angst and jealousy.

 

I guess I am too old to understand this Facebook relationship drama stuff but seems kind of immature to play out relationship stuff online. I don't know.

 

Maybe just see him as a friend until you can meet? Why stress out now.

[creighton0123]

If it is true that he just wants to make you jealous, he's playing games.

 

Meet in person. You two can never truly figure out what you want re: your relationship unless you meet up.

 

As asked by folie, do you plan to meet any time soon? Until then, discussions on where the relationship stands is really... pointless.

[Vodka]

You are lucky your bf at least adds you to facebook. Mine wont because he says he is afraid i will freak out over things he says on it. He used to have it open so anyone could view it and nothing at all was bad on it. But i think you should meet him asap.

[blugirl]

Thank you for all the responses guys, that gave me some more insight Yes, we plan to meet this year finally but can't set a concrete date yet as it depends on how soon we will manage to save all the money needed.

 

You are lucky your bf at least adds you to facebook. Mine wont because he says he is afraid i will freak out over things he says on it. He used to have it open so anyone could view it and nothing at all was bad on it. But i think you should meet him asap.

Well, technically he's not my bf yet and we added each other on FB at the time there wasn't anything between us yet... but anyways I really feel bad for you I would freak out if my bf would block his fb for me cause I would see it as, if he does it, that would mean for me he wants to hide sth. But yeah, we both need to meet asap, damn $ problem