broken-and-lost Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 (edited) Hi guys, I've been going through a very messy break up which i've been finding very hard to deal with, anyway i've been NC about six weeks relationship been over about 3-4 months. I went NC after my ex told me there was nothing to fight for and that she was emotionally exhausted, and that i wasn't respecting her wishes at which point i thought i was being selfish and i should just accept i can't fix this and at the very least leave her alone which i have Few days ago she send me a e-mail about some cottage we use to look at which is now for sale, i didn't respond because of all the things she said last time basically tore me apart...... she then sends me other one saying sorry i shouldn't have sent that e-mail after everything i said about wanting my space...... I've already told her i can't be friends as it would hurt too much to watch her move on with someone else. All of this has just put me back to square one why does she rip me apart about contact only to then contact me i know full well she is never coming back and this is killing me but why contact me she really meant what she said the last time we spoke . Really need some support and thoughts as i'm not sure how much more of this i can take i'm really trying to fix myself and mind and giving her up but this doesn't help only confuses me Edited January 28, 2011 by broken-and-lost
gromit Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 I'm sorry to hear you're going through this, I know first hand how much it hurts believe me. Don't blame yourself for her wanting to leave, It doesn't tell anything about you, just about her. My girlfriend broke up with me when I was at the lowest point of a depression, It hurts like hell, but it made me go and tackle the problem, which is great. I still miss her but in the end she didn't want to bear with me when I was finally gonna do something about it, so her loss really. It's very inconsiderate of her to send you emails that spark memories, I bet she just wants to cause a reaction from your end so well done for not responding. Keep the NC going, because if you don't you're gonna get hurt. (been there, ...) Being friends is a nice idea, but it's also pretty much impossible, and you shouldn't stand for it. You're not alone man!
Author broken-and-lost Posted January 28, 2011 Author Posted January 28, 2011 I'm sorry to hear you're going through this, I know first hand how much it hurts believe me. Don't blame yourself for her wanting to leave, It doesn't tell anything about you, just about her. My girlfriend broke up with me when I was at the lowest point of a depression, It hurts like hell, but it made me go and tackle the problem, which is great. I still miss her but in the end she didn't want to bear with me when I was finally gonna do something about it, so her loss really. It's very inconsiderate of her to send you emails that spark memories, I bet she just wants to cause a reaction from your end so well done for not responding. Keep the NC going, because if you don't you're gonna get hurt. (been there, ...) Being friends is a nice idea, but it's also pretty much impossible, and you shouldn't stand for it. You're not alone man! thanks gromit, this is what i need to hear. i respect her decision not to stick around and i've done all i can from my end to save it so i was trying my best to move forward, it just rips through my soul when i hear from her, why is it ok for her to contact me but not the other way around i have feelings too regardless of who is to blame for the break up..... i physically can't take anymore pain
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