valdeetz1 Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 So I'm a bitter jealous ex, big surprise. Perhaps different in the aspect that I do want him to find happiness even if its not with me. However...due to mutual friends and his mother, I have decided to cast the issue at hand into the forum and let you cast judgement on it. Ex-Fiance(together 6.5 years- age 25)= text book GIGS- amplified by a near death experience. No one, not even his own family, understand his thought process- IE he's a totally different person. He's confused, and bipolar with his feelings- one moment HAPPY the next 'I'd be better off dead.' his current GF-age 21= *cough*tramp*cough* lol. all joking aside she is actually his brother's ex GF- they dated for about 1.5 yrs, broke up in May of 2010. It was a bad relationship from my perspective, she cheated on him early on and then he treated her like crap the rest of it. She tried for months to get him back, then about August started seeing someone- she never gave herself NC or anything to get over her ex. IMO she's doing this to piss off her ex (his bro) because she was kind of rubbing it in his face ( she told her ex that she'd keep it down and then went to have sex with mine- not a good trait I thinks.) there relationship, from what I understand: From 1.5 weeks in he 'loves' her. 2 weeks in she's knitpicking him for a lot, arguing and carrying on in front of his parents. He just sits there and takes it- not like him at all; he'd argue with a brick wall. Then to top it off he apologizes and kisses her butt to make up for it. They've been together over 5 weeks now- moved in together last week. Best thing I think. Other things- she cant seem to be alone with him. They go out to dinner and movies and she's always inviting friends of hers- just like one other GF or someone. Even to her place; she's inviting people over when they're alone- something constant ( I dont see an issue with it if it was later on down the line, but early on is the 'just the 2 of us time' I thought) Also- no FB pictures on either profile. AND he still had pictures of US on his ( bothers me cause if I was with another guy I wouldnt have our pics up still. I do now because...well I dont even want to look at them to delete them.) Probably looking to much into that one- but seriously, if they love eachother so much where are the pics? She's a FB whore, so its not like they just arent that into FB. But I digress.... I'm not stalking, people tell me this crap- his mother being one of them. My sister relayed the part about them never being alone and the pics. Well the point is, IMO its a honeymoon stage of something that is more lust then love, but I'm not holding my breath. Going about my life, working on me and keeping NC. Sucks though cause I care that from what I hear and see that SHE doesnt care about him. I want him to be happy- but I feel like she's going to rip him apart. Maybe he needs that. But his mom was asking my advice and opinion on the matter cause she's worried about him and his personality change. So yeah- constantly together, hardly ever alone, ectect.... Does it sound like one of those hollywood relationships that reek of the Bright the Flame, the Faster it Fizzles?
LadyD06 Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 IMO; you are way to involved...u've broken up you're no longer a team. yess i understand you have history with the guy 6+ years you care about him you want him to be happy, but it's not ur problem to worry about him and his immature slutty new gf. and leave the fb drama to the high schoolers. if she's what he wants then let him suffer the consequences on his own....HE'S NOT UR PROBLEM ANYMORE.
Author valdeetz1 Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 yeah I agree with you a lot. He isn't my problem. And I shouldnt worry about him and her. I agree on your opinion. Emotionally, I'm to involved- its why I've kind of asked for no more...uh...updates? I can't turn off my feelings, and sadly when I do hear things I do this... It's not just with him. I have a weird desire to understand peoples motives in general. My younger sister is 20, so she's all about that highschool drama. Sometimes she cant help but blurt something out. You're right though Lady, its his problem. If she rips his heart out and stomps on it its his business. Who knows- they might end up together for 20 years for all I know. Hate it for his mom though; She's been like my second mom. I guess thats why I get so worked up too- because THEY are stressing HER out. idk. thanks for the response though.
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