GivenUp0083 Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 Unfortunately I learned the hard way that just because women go out with you and make out with you doesn't mean they want to keep dating you. Looks like the same concept applies to men.
zerovandez Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 I think both of you are playing games at this point. You both are throwing bait, and one nibbles but never bites. So the game goes back and forth. Just call him if you want him. I sure would appreciate a phone call if I were him.
Nexus One Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 Update - got email today telling me he enjoyed the "wine and good company." Not a word about seeing me again. Yikes. Polite blow-off? If he's like most guys, then he probably means he enjoyed the wine and good company and didn't mean anything else with that phrase.
Author makelemonade1974 Posted January 28, 2011 Author Posted January 28, 2011 Wow I don't know how to even respond to some of these. I'm new to dating but I'm learning a lot from these forums. My theory is just that guys like to do the initiating, calling, asking out, etc. and I don't want to appear like I am trying to take the reins. Also, I think it's important to pace these things. Why not wait a couple days? It would give us both time to take a breather from the kissing high and look at things more rationally. And yes, it may be an attempt to control things on my part. I appreciate that someone pointed that out. Control is a big issue with me. I responded with "I enjoyed the wine, the company and the kissing. Thanks for a lovely evening." I did not, however, suggest we go out again. I think that's his job. And I really hope people don't just go out, act like they're having a good time and make out when they're really not interested - male or female. That's horrific. I think after so much kissing I can pretty much assume he likes me. I guess I'll find out if I hear from him within the next few days.
Author makelemonade1974 Posted January 29, 2011 Author Posted January 29, 2011 Well, I took everyone's advice and asked him if he wanted to join me on a hike I was planning for Sunday morning. He responded yes and is supposed to call later. Yay!!!! <3 <3 It's so nice to have some feedback here from both genders. I am totally clueless sometimes as to how guys think.
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 29, 2011 Posted January 29, 2011 And I really hope people don't just go out, act like they're having a good time and make out when they're really not interested - male or female. That's horrific. I think after so much kissing I can pretty much assume he likes me. I guess I'll find out if I hear from him within the next few days. I don't think that many people do just "act" interested (unless they are "users") ... but there are quite a few who might feel like running away when they realize that they may be on the verge of a RELATIONSHIP. It hurts when one begins an involvement with one of these, but really, better to find out sooner than later. NOT SAYING that I think your fellow is one. I don't think there is any evidence of that at all, and I hope you have a wonderful time on your next date.
oaks Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 Well, I took everyone's advice and asked him if he wanted to join me on a hike I was planning for Sunday morning. He responded yes and is supposed to call later. Yay!!!! <3 <3 Excellent news!
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