Sergeant K Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 I have been divorced for two years and have been out of the dating scene for a little bit. I have a 5 yr old son that I have pretty much full custody of. If I am not working (12hr shifts and nights with every other weekend off), then I have him. So not much time to myself. I still wouldn't change it for anything! My last relationship ended about a month ago. We were friends before and pretty much in the same situation with kids, so it wasn't an issue. I'm not ready for a serious relationship yet, but would at least like to meet some new people and casually date. Given my situation, what are the best options for me as far as meeting someone? Do you see my situation as a deal breaker in any future relationship?
2sure Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 I think it may be your shift that is the issue.
Author Sergeant K Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 My work schedule works where I will only work two days one week (wed/thursday) and the next week will work five days (mon, tues, fri, sat, sun). There is a possibility of going to first shift in future, but won't be possible for at least six months.
jane100 Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 I have lots of similar restrictions in my life, in fact much bigger ones actually and I think it makes it harder to meet the people I want to if I was "free-er". But I think if you are "ready", where there's a will there's a way. Of course there may be lots of people who would find your situation untenable, but there may be many who do not mind at all or even fits in with their schedule. Having a lovely 5 year old kid can be great too! Anyway, there's only one way to find out ...
yellowhibiscus Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 I am a single mom and I know what you're going through! It is very hard to have "me" time let alone go on a date. Do you have family that could watch your son so you could go out??
Crimson and Clover Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 I really like kids and I have some flexibility in my work schedule plus my own life and friends so I see a lot of possibility with someone like you. BUT I wouldn't want to meet your son right away, I don't think it's good to start playing house too soon, and kids can get attached fast. So you would have to have something figured out for that, where we could meet while he was at school or with a babysitter/family for a while.
Author Sergeant K Posted January 28, 2011 Author Posted January 28, 2011 Thanks for the advice. I see your point about meeting my son right away, yes they do get attached to fast. There is family close that could watch him. I just feel guilty at times asking them to watch him while I go out. Every once in awhile is okay, since you have to get out, but it is not something I would feel comfortable doing all the time.
marg Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 I'm in the same place. Recently divorced mom pretty much full custody and working 2 jobs. It is HARD to get balance. I am working on it but my child has to always come first. Anybody gets this figured out I would love to know!!
Minnie09 Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 I'm a single mom, too, but my problem is that even though I am ready to meet someone, I just don't have the energy to go out. Between work, toddler, cooking, household, money issues, kids' activities, and so on - you get the point - I just have zero energy left to date. Yes, so I want to hear more ideas, too! Also, I don't like online dating. Anyone else have problems with that? I just can't get used to the thought... Silly, I know, because it's the only way to "date" efficiently these days, if you hardly have time for stuff. Ugh.
alexlakeman Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 Single dad here. My advice? Date single moms, so they know what it's like and online dating is the way to go.
marg Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 Ugg online dating scares the heck out of this southern gal! My kiddo is 12 1/2 so that does help that she is older. I think I want to date someone with kids because he would understand kids first and work schedules around....now to just find a good one;). lol
Author Sergeant K Posted January 28, 2011 Author Posted January 28, 2011 Ugg online dating scares the heck out of this southern gal! My kiddo is 12 1/2 so that does help that she is older. I think I want to date someone with kids because he would understand kids first and work schedules around....now to just find a good one;). lol I'm a little nervous about trying the online dating thing as well. I've never tried it...I guess you never know till you try.
marg Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 I know u right life is about the ride and u never will know until u take a chance. But that's easier said than done I talk big but I am a big chicken at heart! What site would some one recommend for a starter like me?
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