timchambo Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Had to break NC as the periodic phone calls and texts wouldn't quit. Basically needed to say stop contacting me. Kinda set me back a bit. Hopefully the healing process speeds back up again. I think the most frustrating part is since she is already talking to a new guy and bringing him around her fam (been about a month since split), she responded to my NC request with more excuses rationalizing what she is doing. She makes it sound like our 7 year relationship was a joke and it never really truly meant anything. I just can't understand that. I hope it's the fact she is in the honeymoon phase and she's not seeing all we had right now. It just breaks my heart to know I tried so hard and she sees it now as not really meaning anything. I hope with time she will see it for what it was. I don't say this because I want her back.
Capricciosa Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 I had to do the same thing the other day, and it also set me back. She probably feels guilty so she's playing it like everything is light and breezy. I'm sure no one moves away from a 7 yr relationship that quickly. I know it probably hurts like hell. Just stay away and you'll feel better again.
donovant91 Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 (edited) Going through the same thing my friend. Ex gf broke it off with me for a new guy, acting like our 5 years was a joke and insignificant compared to her new "love", and I understand completely. My ex is acting so immature and disrespectful it just bothers me that she took such a rapid switch to that mentality. I don't want to be with her again, she blames the whole relationship on me and broke NC a few days ago to rub her new boyfriend in my face in a subtle way, I thought she was going to be mature and apologize and admit mistakes, and I wanted to help her have closure. Don't worry you'll get back on the horse in a day or two, just realize that no matter what she says the fact that she is still trying to contact you shows 1. She isn't happy no matter what she says, If she we're happy with her new relationship she wouldn't be trying to contact you 2. She is probably in denial or feeling guilty. My ex still hasn't admitted her mistakes or apologized in any way for how what she did or how she did it So even though her purposeful ignorance hurts, she knows deep down she made a huge mistake but doesn't want to admit it. Realize her new relationship is only a temporary selfish lift, its destined to fail because shes still holding onto emotions from her past relationship. It won't work out past the honeymoon phase because she will have to accept reality eventually. Be grateful you see what kind of a person she is now, instead of later down the road. Edited January 28, 2011 by donovant91
Author timchambo Posted January 28, 2011 Author Posted January 28, 2011 thanks for the support guys. shes always had that characteristic of not admitting mistakes. I had always expressed that its important to learn from mistakes, but not to dwell on them. I think I got her to admit to 1 in the 7 years together. I certainly learned from mine. It's just too bad the way she ended this. I would say outside of her parents, the only other people that cared and loved her were me and my family. She's burned a hell of a lot of bridges here. There is a part of me that feels sorry for her. ahhh the emotional roller coaster I am on. not a fun ride.
donovant91 Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 Try not to get too caught up in her life and her mistakes. Think of it more of a blessing that it broke off when it did and not later down the road. She made her choice and now she has to live with it, yet you have to move on with your life as well. Some people can learn from their mistakes and others never learn, just be grateful that you are one of those people that learn and hope that she will too one day. Everyday gets better, just focus on the present.
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