Bluebelle38 Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Hi there My first post ever on here and I just want to vent about the hurt a 46-yr-old CP has caused me. We dated years ago and split but 6 months ago after years apart I contacted him. We live in diff countries and he flew to see me that weekend. We met up every 3-4 weeks for weekends away; we went on holiday to the caribbean (he paid); I spent christmas with his family (knew them all from years ago). he offered to help me pay fees that I had on my credit card but I thanked him but declined as I would never want him to think I took advantage and I am very independent. I cant believe after all this he would text me we didnt really get along; are going nowhere and he doesnt feel what I do. This came about because after xmas he really pulled back on the contact and i felt totally gutted. he didnt even text or call me NY eve (he did finally contact me later that day) but I was so hurt and said that I was done at about 2am. he never called me. Just let me feel totally rejected. His text that we didnt get on was so damn cruel. We did. My friends loved the banter and watching us (as did his family). I know that he was just gagging to get away from me. That the noose was getting too tight and he had to bail especially after seeing me with his family at xmas. To say what he said and by text is so cruel. I tried to call him and he would not answer me. he has just cut me out (our history goes back 8 years) I have read men who cant love and he is a textbook CP. I wish I had read it before getting involved again. It's been 10 days no contact and I hate that while I am suffering he is probably doing just fine. Anyone else had a relationship with a CP that ended so quickly and strange it left you out of breath? Thank you for reading.
GreenPolicy Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Anyone else had a relationship with a CP that ended so quickly and strange it left you out of breath? Yes http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t253770/
edgeofdarkness Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Hi there My first post ever on here and I just want to vent about the hurt a 46-yr-old CP has caused me. ..... I cant believe after all this he would text me we didnt really get along; are going nowhere and he doesnt feel what I do. This came about because after xmas he really pulled back on the contact and i felt totally gutted. he didnt even text or call me NY eve (he did finally contact me later that day) but I was so hurt and said that I was done at about 2am. he never called me. Just let me feel totally rejected. His text that we didnt get on was so damn cruel. We did. My friends loved the banter and watching us (as did his family). I know that he was just gagging to get away from me. That the noose was getting too tight and he had to bail especially after seeing me with his family at xmas. To say what he said and by text is so cruel. I tried to call him and he would not answer me. he has just cut me out (our history goes back 8 years) I have read men who cant love and he is a textbook CP. I wish I had read it before getting involved again. It's been 10 days no contact and I hate that while I am suffering he is probably doing just fine. Anyone else had a relationship with a CP that ended so quickly and strange it left you out of breath? Thank you for reading. U dont get it do u? hes not a cp. hes met sumone else. closer 2 him, so really, its a no breiner. your off his radar, new sqweeze is on it. hes not a CP. hes cheating. he wd deny it, if he answered you, but as he has no need to answer u, you dont need to know it.
Author Bluebelle38 Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 The guy is a commitmentphobe. I read a list of 40 points and he ticked 26. And those he didnt have were to do with thos CP men that had been married. Why invite me to xmas, spend a fortune on gifts. He wasnt even in the country he lives at xmas, he was in mine with his family and he was there until new year so if he did meet someone in those few days (while staying with his dad) the person more than likely lives over here as well. I dont need to write a list of his CP behaviour. There are too many things... especially how he was when we met 2 weeks before christmas and when we met again xmas eve drove to his family. All happy days. But the moment he saw me integrating with them he changed. he looked anxious scared. it was the look he had about 8 years when i first visited his mum with him. Terrified. Maybe by now he has met someone. But to meet someone in the 4 days while staying with his family is unlikely. it is a rural place. But yeah, you can meet anyone anywhere. Thanks for that though. The thought he cheated makes me angry and is going to help me get over it anyway
edgeofdarkness Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 ....But the moment he saw me integrating with them he changed. he looked anxious scared. it was the look he had about 8 years when i first visited his mum with him. Terrified. Maybe by now he has met someone. But to meet someone in the 4 days while staying with his family is unlikely. it is a rural place. But yeah, you can meet anyone anywhere. sorry ther is such a thing as 2timing. mayibe he ws scared of his family now telling u he hd another chick too.... also if sumone ends it unecxpecedley its totally possibel fr them to meet sumone relly quickly. the person getting out is a free agent before theyve even dumped you... Thanks for that though. The thought he cheated makes me angry and is going to help me get over it anyway i wasent tryying to hurt you, u know that right,? just be realsitic. guys who shut off this fast genrally hv a backup plan
Author Bluebelle38 Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 God, no, you are fine.... I was the one that sent the I'm done text as other aspects bothered me. I was with his family for 3 days and doubt they knew he had someone else. They live in same country as me so they wouldnt know anyway, he is a 50min flight away, not major long distance so we met up a lot and he works mon-sat so he did make a lot of effort. I hadn on heart believe he is a CP though. After we split he chased me for 6 months, this is going back years but I was adamant it was over and met someone else. I used to regret that but I know it would have been the same situation if I had. We met his best friend over here on christmas eve and it was all great fun; he was telling me to get his friends wifes number as we got on so well. I really dont think at that point he was doing the dirt... But xmas day with the family he was distant, agitated as he saw me interact with them all again. Ah, what does it matter really. He isnt on boards discussing me; he's not. I know that. It just hurts after the whirlwind effort at the start and the weekends, holiday, the laughs. His loss. I know that and in time I will get over it. At least i dont think what if anymore and I have no guilt that i was unfaithful. i was nothing but decent and loving (which no doubt terrified the hell out of him) You've helped.
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