Author Leigh 87 Posted January 31, 2011 Author Share Posted January 31, 2011 I understand that if I am nto very careful, I have a lot of reasons why my current emotionala nd mental states could lead to more pain, as a result of engaging in casual sex relations of this nature. However, i am not in to vibrators, and I much prefer the idea of a hot sweaty guy on top of me; I think that if I emotionally detatch and do not get to know a guy to the point where I have feelings, I should be able to just get it is that I need: sex: pleasure. I do not get feelings for guys easily, so as long as I only view it as pleasure, I see nothing wrong in having sex with a guy. I sure as heck am not waiting around another year for it, which is at least how long it will take me to me more mentally healthy; I am not going without sex, one of my greatest pleasures in life, just because I have to wait until I address my issues. I see nothing wrong with sex, and I am not a silly sensative type who gets feelings for guys and wants to marry them; I do not even want to have a relationship necessarily. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 Sigh. There is nothing wrong with having sex with someone, no. Two people with healthy self esteems and a mutual desire for physical pleasure can even get away with having casual sex without any negative repercussions. There is, however, something very wrong with wanting sex to boost your ego (in the short term), or to confirm that your unhealthy behaviour is somehow normal. Any pleasure you derive from having a hot sweaty guy on top of you will be extremely short lived, because once he withdraws from you, (and he will, because you gave him carte blanche to do so) you will feel worthless all over again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 31, 2011 Author Share Posted January 31, 2011 And I quickly knew with my latest male encounter, to not come across as obsessive; I did not send him that many messages on face book, sheesh, I just did a few minimal things that put him off I think. I KNOW not to be obsessive with men. It is obvious. My latest wrong doing in terms of my interaction with a guy, was that I got over excited that he said I was gorgeous and sounded very interested in me in a sexual sense, so I probably talked al ittle too much to him; but nothing totally psycho. It was funny, before I talked about sex too much, he said something like " oh we should see each other, I think we could have something good" or something along those lines; because I do not know the guy AT ALL, he could have been saying it because he genuinly didnt know what to expect from me and meant it; on the other hand, he could be the type of guy who says that to girls to get intot heir pants. Regardless of my mental state, I am capable of having sex without getting feelings for a guy; I do not care about people who I do not KNOW. And the last guy annoyed me because I genuinly DID have a very ugly day, and because he us so hot and I was very happy that a guy this hot was goign to end my sex draught, it was a buz kill that I had a very, very infected ear, and that my face was swollen due to getting hit. It is just super ficial to me; I was angry that i was not as attractuve as usual, because I want my sexual encounters, and I especially wanted mhy first one in such a long time, andw ith such a hot guy, to be when I was NOT looking at my absolute worst. It was about me and my body and feeling upset I was injured ( my ear). I do not know the guy well and never got feelings for him as a person, cos I did not know him. Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 I sure as heck am not waiting around another year for it, which is at least how long it will take me to me more mentally healthy; I am not going without sex, one of my greatest pleasures in life, just because I have to wait until I address my issues. So... go for it. What are you going to do to get sex? Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 Not being obsessive FULL STOP would help. You won't be able to keep a lid on that behaviour forever. Better to eliminate it all together. Please excuse me while I go and find a brick wall to bash my head against. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 Why don't you just f*ck the guy that you are friends with in real-life, the one who posted on here and supposedly got a message about you on FB? Wouldn't that just be easier? He is always posting on LS about wanting casual sex. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 All this time wasted talking about getting casual sex- you could have had lots of it by now. Link to post Share on other sites
OceanGirl Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 I also don't get how you went 5 years without sex and you want casual sex that badly. For any female, she can swing her handbag and hit 10 guys willing to have casual sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 I also don't get how you went 5 years without sex and you want casual sex that badly. For any female, she can swing her handbag and hit 10 guys willing to have casual sex. I think that's the thing. Leigh doesn't know how to "swing her handbag" so as to meet eligible guys. So when one guy comes along and tells her she's hot, she gets over-excited. I wouldn't know where to begin advising her on how to meet men though, as she never answered my questions about 1) How she expects men to act when they're into her and 2) How she acts when she sees a guy she finds cute. Link to post Share on other sites
elastica Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 You shouldn't be giving out his real name This thread should really be closed now, it is getting ridiculous... Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 Um, Leigh? You have given out your own FB page, you have given out the FB page of a guy that you want to screw, and you have now given out the FB page of a guy that you say is your friend. Let's see - I have just gone to your FB, looked at your friend list (I thought you blocked strangers from being able to see that??), and now know who your friend is. Isn't that EXACTLY what you were all freaked out about in the first place? I hope that one of the things that you are working on with your therapist is boundaries and how to keep certain things private. Possibly then you won't be giving trolls ammo on how to hurt you, or harass you or your friends. As for your self-confessed mental instability and need for sex that you seem to be unable to get, I bow out of this conversation. Like another poster said, it's just less painful to hit my head on a brick wall than to try to help someone who doesn't "get it". I guess the point now would be to ask Surrealist if HE is okay being publicly identified. Sheesh. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 Too late now. Link to post Share on other sites
Surrealist Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 WOW - pass the popcorn indeed! This was a shocker thread to read. Leigh, you need to re-think your friends (the guy who posted here and supposedly got a message) if he came here, read your threats of suicide, and doesn't express any concern for you. So, I can see why there are posters now wondering as to the dual-personality aspect of these posts, and whether or not someone really did FB your friend or if this is just made-up in order to add more excitement and drama to your day. As for eating disorders messing up hair, I think I read somewhere else that she has extensions. So her hair is actually not long or thick or lustrous - it's fake. Definitely sounds as though she has had some consequences of her disorder already. What? I'm friends with Leigh on facebook. We have exchanged quite a lot of messages in private conversation, my purpose on this thread wasn't to highlight Leigh's problems or address her issues, but to share information about that message I have, and still have and can send it to her as a pic via a dump screen. Stop creating drama out of nothing will ya, I'm not the one who is full of **** here. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 What? I'm friends with Leigh on facebook. We have exchanged quite a lot of messages in private conversation, my purpose on this thread wasn't to highlight Leigh's problems or address her issues, but to share information about that message I have, and still have and can send it to her as a pic via a dump screen. Stop creating drama out of nothing will ya, I'm not the one who is full of **** here. Now that you have been identified, are you comfortable with that? Would you prefer the mods edit the thread? Link to post Share on other sites
Surrealist Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 Now that you have been identified, are you comfortable with that? Would you prefer the mods edit the thread? Nah not worried, my real name wasn't mentioned and besides I don't have anything to hide. Maybe Lucky One was the "One" who sent the message for all I know, seems obsessed enough with Leigh and her facebooks friends. Yeah? Also trying to belittle my claim that a message was sent? There's your FB stalker Leigh, right there. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 It's Me! It's Me!! (Waving hand frantically in the air!) Link to post Share on other sites
Surrealist Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 It's Me! It's Me!! (Waving hand frantically in the air!) Well no need to hide your shyness and embarrassment about it behind a facade of excitement and jubilation. Nobody's perfect. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 And all along I thought it was Professor Plum in the Billiard room! Link to post Share on other sites
OceanGirl Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 And all along I thought it was Professor Plum in the Billiard room! It's you Kamille isn't it? Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 It's you Kamille isn't it? Yes - that's right. I was faking those pages and pages of thread where I just couldn't figure out how people were accessing the facebook profiles. [Was that last sentence sarcasm or irony? Oh no. I'm confused again. ] Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 Nobody's perfect. I am. Seriously, Surrealist, your posts say that you haven't had sex for 5 years. Leigh hasn't had sex in 5 years. Why don't you just hook up with her, and then she doesn't reduce herself to this recent sort of behavior and she gets to have casual sex with someone who at least cares about her? And I DO mean that in all seriousness. Why not do each other a sexual favor? Link to post Share on other sites
OceanGirl Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 I am. Seriously, Surrealist, your posts say that you haven't had sex for 5 years. Leigh hasn't had sex in 5 years. Why don't you just hook up with her, and then she doesn't reduce herself to this recent sort of behavior and she gets to have casual sex with someone who at least cares about her? And I DO mean that in all seriousness. Why not do each other a sexual favor? I second this suggestion. You are a nice guy, at least she wouldn't be in any danger of hooking up with randoms. Consider it seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
Surrealist Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 Cos we live some 5 hour drive away and I'm very lazy. Poor excuse maybe but hey, got to excuse myself some how. Link to post Share on other sites
OceanGirl Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 Cos we live some 5 hour drive away and I'm very lazy. Poor excuse maybe but hey, got to excuse myself some how. you should never complain again about not getting any........ Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 Nah not worried, my real name wasn't mentioned and besides I don't have anything to hide.. Are you sure? I thought I saw a name. I saw Leigh87s FB profile too, I looked out of curiosity. Anyway, I second you two hooking up. Win win. Link to post Share on other sites
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