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January 28, 2011

But the few guys that were out at the pubs - I did not see them even looking twice at me.

I walked home, and had 1000 calories of pasta.

I want to kill myself. I am serious. NO emergency warn wil help me - thw fact is, I hate not being beautiful. I would rather die, than be normal looking, and have NO GUYS think I am pretty opr gorgeous.

I mean, I do pilates EVERY DAY and often run 4 days a week, and NO GUYS NOTICE ME>

I Just want a nice guy to think I am gorgeous. That is all.

Obviouslly, I am not attractive enough to get a fit guy to find me very hot, and will have to either settle for an unfit, ugly guy, or go without sex foranother five years.

These are some seriously scary thoughts that need to be addressed, and sex is not going to help them. A good part of being 'gorgeous' comes from the inside out. No joke.

January 28, 2011

WHy is is not likely that I will find a guy who will want me so badly and think I am gorgeous?

Actually, you are right. I went out tonight with a friend, and we live in a small town where there are no night clubs.

But the few guys that were out at the pubs - I did not see them even looking twice at me.

I walked home, and had 1000 calories of pasta.

I want to kill myself. I am serious. NO emergency warn wil help me - thw fact is, I hate not being beautiful. I would rather die, than be normal looking, and have NO GUYS think I am pretty opr gorgeous.

I mean, I do pilates EVERY DAY and often run 4 days a week, and NO GUYS NOTICE ME>

I Just want a nice guy to think I am gorgeous. That is all.

Obviouslly, I am not attractive enough to get a fit guy to find me very hot, and will have to either settle for an unfit, ugly guy, or go without sex foranother five years.

I am starting Uni soon, And unless I emerse myself in my studies, I will seriouskly kill myself. I am the ultimate hedonist, and I thoughgt that because I am 5 ' 5, 116 lbs, D cups, straight teeth, with long blonde thick hair, that guys would find me to be attractive.

But now. NO one notices me.

Unless I find meaning in my life through studying my nutrition degree, which starts shortly, I will end my own life.

Because I want a guy, who is fit and hot, to think I am gorgeous.

I am not eating until Monday.

I have never starved myself before - I just ate often but not enough.

I have reached a point now where I hate beinbg a hedonist,. who primarily wants great sex with hot men and to eat good food and derive pleasure; btu is not attractive enough to attain a hedonistic life style.

I have ben drinking a lot sorry. But I do want to end my own life. I wiould rather die , then have to settle for unnattractive guys for sex who are un fit.

I want to be gorgeous to some men:( I am not eating for days now. I am so depressed.

Leigh,

Even if we go with your 'logic': From what I remember from your previous posts, you first struggled with eating disorder and then (or at the same time) were socially isolated for several years. So, if you haven't had a 'normal' social life for a long time, there is no way in hell that you can conclude that there are no fit guys out there that will find you hot, or that there aren't men around who will find your gorgeous based on ONE trip to the local pub and some fairly unknown quantity on facebook. :confused: It just makes no sense, Leigh.

More fundamentally: if you would rather die than being normal looking, you have a serious problem. You have a CHOICE about what to base your happiness upon. If that's your criteria, you're setting yourself up pretty badly. Besides that, it really comes across as extremely self centred. You might want to do another around with yourself, and your therapist, about setting basic objectives for your life.

I have no idea what you look like and you may be very physically beautiful for all I know, but I'm going repeat a point that has been repeated ad nauseam in your threads: Mental disturbance is unattractive. Given the choice between two good looking people, the one who projects a healthy confidence is likely to get noticed (in the positive sense) first, or get more favourable attention. Not eating until Monday will make no positive difference whatsoever - NONE AT ALL - in your quest for getting attention. Addressing your psychological issues most probably will.

I'm not saying anything that hasn't already been said here on your threads. But I urge you to consider them, again, carefully. Your obsession with how you look isn't going to get you where you want. Face that head on and your chances of being happier are going to increase by about 1300%. Seriously. Good luck.

January 28, 2011

I am drunk, and I just threw 100 dollar scaled, out of my balcony.

At 114 lbs with long blonde thick hair, straight teeth, and anice body, WHY DONT GUYS NOTICE ME.

WHY do heavier women get guys to think THEY are gorgeous?raight teetr

I do not like the anorexic look, But unfortunately, I am going to fade away into nothing now.

Sorry, but i do not want to live a life, where guys do not find me gorgeous.

I DONT ONLY want to be known for who I am

I also want SOME people to think I look gorgeous.

I MEAN FOR F*cks sake!!!!!!!!!! I look good to me! 114 lbs, 5 '5, nice body shape, teeth - yet NO GUY LOOKS AT ME TWICE.

I am too much of a hedonist, to settle for a life where people love me for my inteelligence and personality; I want to be able to go out and have guys think I LOOk gorgeous too.

I am not eating until I die. I have never felt this way before. ever

\Goodbye.

I am going to go throw all my expensive organic food out now, also out the balcony

Sorry, but I am innately a hedonist, and if I cannot EVER be attractive enough to have HOT men, think I am gorgeous..............

Than I woulf rather not live; I would rather die thsn live a life where I am nto attractive.

This will be last post on Love Shack.

I will read other peopes posts, but I am slowly going to kill myself, so I will not have any need to ask for dating advice any more.

GUys do not notice me when I do hours of pilates and eat a clean diet; so no one will notice me when I become emaciated again/

Thanks to all the people who have given me advice; I have enjoyed my time on here.

But now I I have chosen my fate; I would rather die, than not be able to be gorgeous, physically,. to some men.

Physical beauty IS NOT everything, but I DO NOT HAVE ANy.........not ONE guy, who thinks I asm gorgeous.

I DO NOT WANT guys to think I am gorgeous DUE to falling in ,ove with my whole package

I WANT TO BE GORGEOUS PHYSICALLY, in ADDITION to my personality.

I am going to cut my inner thighs too - to self harm. I am very sexual, and it is symbolic for me to harm myself in my privsate re4gion - because I am not attractive enough for fit and attractive men to want to approach, ****, or have ANYTHING to do with me.

Good bye love shack.

I wonder if it will hurt starving to death. .

January 28, 2011

Leigh, post a picture. I seriously doubt you're anywhere near as unattractive as you think.

That you don't notice guys checking you out is meaningless. I don't think I've *ever* noticed a girl checking me out, yet almost anyone I've dated has said they thought I was hot. Even ones that didn't want to see me again!

You CANNOT base your self worth or sense of attractiveness on how much attention you perceive you're getting.

January 28, 2011

I want to kill myself. I am serious.

I'm sorry to hear this. Call your therapist first.

Obviouslly, I am not attractive enough to get a fit guy to find me very hot, and will have to either settle for an unfit, ugly guy, or go without sex foranother five years.

I am starting Uni soon, And unless I emerse myself in my studies, I will seriouskly kill myself. I am the ultimate hedonist, and I thoughgt that because I am 5 ' 5, 116 lbs, D cups, straight teeth, with long blonde thick hair, that guys would find me to be attractive.

I did click through to your facebook profile, and although I only saw the one profile picture for a few seconds I thought you looked attractive. Your physical description above sounds good, too.

If you're going to Uni soon you'll come across lots of single guys... problem solved!

January 28, 2011

I am drunk, and I just threw 100 dollar scaled, out of my balcony.

At 114 lbs with long blonde thick hair, straight teeth, and anice body, WHY DONT GUYS NOTICE ME.

WHY do heavier women get guys to think THEY are gorgeous?raight teetr

I do not like the anorexic look, But unfortunately, I am going to fade away into nothing now.

Sorry, but i do not want to live a life, where guys do not find me gorgeous.

I DONT ONLY want to be known for who I am

I also want SOME people to think I look gorgeous.

I MEAN FOR F*cks sake!!!!!!!!!! I look good to me! 114 lbs, 5 '5, nice body shape, teeth - yet NO GUY LOOKS AT ME TWICE.

I am too much of a hedonist, to settle for a life where people love me for my inteelligence and personality; I want to be able to go out and have guys think I LOOk gorgeous too.

I am not eating until I die. I have never felt this way before. ever

\Goodbye.

I am going to go throw all my expensive organic food out now, also out the balcony

Sorry, but I am innately a hedonist, and if I cannot EVER be attractive enough to have HOT men, think I am gorgeous..............

Than I woulf rather not live; I would rather die thsn live a life where I am nto attractive.

This will be last post on Love Shack.

I will read other peopes posts, but I am slowly going to kill myself, so I will not have any need to ask for dating advice any more.

GUys do not notice me when I do hours of pilates and eat a clean diet; so no one will notice me when I become emaciated again/

Thanks to all the people who have given me advice; I have enjoyed my time on here.

But now I I have chosen my fate; I would rather die, than not be able to be gorgeous, physically,. to some men.

Physical beauty IS NOT everything, but I DO NOT HAVE ANy.........not ONE guy, who thinks I asm gorgeous.

I DO NOT WANT guys to think I am gorgeous DUE to falling in ,ove with my whole package

I WANT TO BE GORGEOUS PHYSICALLY, in ADDITION to my personality.

I am going to cut my inner thighs too - to self harm. I am very sexual, and it is symbolic for me to harm myself in my privsate re4gion - because I am not attractive enough for fit and attractive men to want to approach, ****, or have ANYTHING to do with me.

Good bye love shack.

I wonder if it will hurt starving to death. .

Leigh, please reach out to someone around you - a friend, a family member, anyone you can talk to and who might help you relax a bit and calm down. Call a help line if you don't want to talk to someone you know. But PLEASE do not self harm. Don't throw anything else out the balcony. Don't drink more alcohol. You'll just feel worse tomorrow. Please try to just stop and breathe and calm down a bit before you do anything else.

January 28, 2011

I am starting Uni soon, And unless I emerse myself in my studies, I will seriouskly kill myself. I am the ultimate hedonist, and I thoughgt that because I am 5 ' 5, 116 lbs, D cups, straight teeth, with long blonde thick hair, that guys would find me to be attractive. --Leigh 87

You are not a hedonist, really. Hedonists believe that pleasure is the only intrinsic good. You are the picture of suffering, something hedonists believe is inherently bad. Hedonists seek neither to feel or produce pain and only to feel and produce pleasure.

Your posts make you sound like a masochist, someone who is so used to being trapped in a cycle of pain you don't know anything else. I hope you go to your therapist and work on this, as your posts are (as you know) worrisome. I hope you won't hurt yourself more.

January 28, 2011

Leigh, I'm sorry you are in so much pain. It is imperative that you reach out to a therapist or call someone who could support you at a body image clinic.

I went out tonight with a friend, and we live in a small town where there are no night clubs.

You live in a small town? Could that be the very simple explanation as to why no one noticed you?

And I have to wonder if your criteria for "men noticing you" is adequate: how do you think men act when they notice a girl? Do you think they immediately walk up to her?

Also, how did you behave when you were out with your friend? Did you notice any cute guy? Did you smile at him? Did you go up to him?

I wonder if the reason you feel no man is checking you out is simply because you don't know how to be approachable when out in public settings.

Also - I'm not a stunning beauty. I'm ordinary looking. My BMI is 23. I think my body looks good, and my joke is that "those who like it, like it a lot". I used to struggle with self-esteem issues (and back then my bmi was 21) and also think no men found me attractive. I would often get home after the bar and think: "sheesh, I must be really unattractive. No guys ever approach me". A few years ago, I ran into a guy I had a crush on in college. We hooked up and he told me: "Oh, I had a crush on you back then but you were really unapproachable". Any chance this is the case for you? Do you know how to be approachable?

January 28, 2011

You are not a hedonist, really. Hedonists believe that pleasure is the only intrinsic good. You are the picture of suffering, something hedonists believe is inherently bad. Hedonists seek neither to feel or produce pain and only to feel and produce pleasure.

Your posts make you sound like a masochist, someone who is so used to being trapped in a cycle of pain you don't know anything else. I hope you go to your therapist and work on this, as your posts are (as you know) worrisome. I hope you won't hurt yourself more.

Agreed. A hedonist would own -and use- a vibrator.

January 28, 2011

http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=1675163770622&set=a.1486659098123.2068695.1583294705

Here is a picture my dad took of my tonight.

And yes, I am 114 lbs, D cup breasts, thick blonde hair, and I have straight teeth.

But average guys do not even look at me.

So I have no hope of FIT and HEALTHY men, who take are of their fitness, finding me gorgeous looking

I want a guy , and PEOPLE in general , to think I am gorgeous based on WHO I AM on the inside, sure.

BUt I also want fit men to think I am gorgeous on the outside. To want my body.

January 28, 2011

I couldn't see the picture for whatever reason - but I will take oaks' word that you are attractive.

Could you answer the following questions:

How do you think men act when they find a woman attractive? (what are your expectations?)

What about you? How do you act when you find a man attractive?

I'm guessing that you are an attractive girl who just doesn't really know how to make bar approaches possible.

January 28, 2011

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?id=1583294705&aid=2068695#!/photo.php?fbid=1675180411038&set=a.1627097969007.2084292.1583294705

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2068695&id=1583294705#!/photo.php?fbid=1675183331111&set=a.1627097969007.2084292.1583294705

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2084293&id=1583294705

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2084305&id=1583294705

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2068695&id=1583294705

LOOK AT ALL MY RECENT PICTURES.

I like the way I look BUT NO GUY DOES>

WHY DO HEAVIER GIRLS, who DO NOT HAVE STRAIGHT TEETH, GET GUYS TO LOOK AT THEM< AND THINK THEY ARE GORGEOUS.

SOrry, but having a nice personality DOES NOT get guys to instantly look, and see something gorgeous!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LOOK AT MY PICTURES. am I REALLY not good enough for guys to find gorgous!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I THOUGHT I would be gorgeous to SOME men; but it turns out, NO GUYS DO THINK I AM .

January 28, 2011

I THOUGHT I would be gorgeous to SOME men; but it turns out, NO GUYS DO THINK I AM .

Leigh, how do you know this? Did you go around the bar asking guys if they thought you were attractive? What are your expectations here?

ps: I still can't see the pics - but I really don't think it matters.

January 28, 2011

I don't think your pictures are set to be visible to non-friends.

January 28, 2011

Leigh, how do you know this? Did you go around the bar asking guys if they thought you were attractive? What are your expectations here?

ps: I still can't see the pics - but I really don't think it matters.

GO to the links

or go to my face book page, http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=1675167090705&set=a.1486659098123.2068695.1583294705#!/

I think I m attractive. I am slim and I like my long blonde wavy hair.

but no guys look at me.

And I do not care about giving away my face book details

I DONT CARE lol.

Seriosuly.

I would not care if I got run over right now.

I am giving all my possesions to charity.

tomorrow, I am bringing all my healthy food to the local club, and getting them to donate it so the brisbane floods.

And a lot of my clothes.

Because I have given up at life.

I am honestly such a silly person, that I owuld rather starve myself to DEATH. Than live a life where most men do not find me pleasant or gorgeous to look at.

January 28, 2011

WHY DO HEAVIER GIRLS, who DO NOT HAVE STRAIGHT TEETH, GET GUYS TO LOOK AT THEM< AND THINK THEY ARE GORGEOUS.

Some guys just like curvy girls.

Not sure why you keep mentioning teeth. If I'm looking at girls in a bar I'm sure teeth aren't in the top 10 of my list of things to check out. It's not as if I'm buying a horse.

January 28, 2011

but I HAVE STRAIGHT TEETH, and I AM THIN,

so WHY would a women with a HEAVIER body, who has CROOKED teeth, get more guys to think they are attractive!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Straight teeth are more pleasant to look at than crooked ones.

And my petite, 114 lbs body, is more femine, ethereal, and delicate, than a heavier body.

Yet guys do not look at my body, and look aty heavier girls, with less attractive features, in my opinion.

Which is why I have given up.

I want a guy who thinks I am gorgeous.

I have not had a guy think I am gorgeous in so many years.

Two have said I was gorgeous in the past 6 years.

One was a hot body builder - he was a 10/10

The other one recently said I was grogeous, but changed hismind and ignored me.

January 28, 2011

Go see a psychologist, they'll give you some meds. You aren't acting, speaking, or talking rationally right now.

You are pretty enough to date guys. You just need to be more chill. That is for sure your problem.

January 28, 2011

Go see a psychologist, they'll give you some meds. You aren't acting, speaking, or talking rationally right now.

You are pretty enough to date guys. You just need to be more chill. That is for sure your problem.

Agreed. You need to speak to a mental health professional ASAP.

January 28, 2011

but I HAVE STRAIGHT TEETH, and I AM THIN,

so WHY would a women with a HEAVIER body, who has CROOKED teeth, get more guys to think they are attractive!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Is this a good time to say "beauty is in the eye of the beholder"? No, probably not.

Some guys like fat girls. Some guys like skinny girls. Some guys like neither. Some guys aren't worried too much about body size/shape. Really.

January 28, 2011

After the mods deleted your first thread out of obsessive paranoia that someone would contact one of your friends on FB, WHY are you now posting your profile AGAIN, along with your friends list?

I think you need to call your therapist now, and tell the receptionist that you are in a crisis mode and apt to do harm to yourself or to others.

January 28, 2011

Go see a psychologist, they'll give you some meds. You aren't acting, speaking, or talking rationally right now.

You are pretty enough to date guys. You just need to be more chill. That is for sure your problem.

I have STRAIGHT TEETH and I AM THIN with D CUP BREASTS and THICK HAIR

OF COURSE I THINK I AM PRETTY ENOUGH TO DATE GUYS,.

trouble is, NO GUYS LOOK AT ME. EVER.

but heavier girls with NON straight teeth, GET HOT GUYS.

WHY DONT I.

I want FIT and ATTRACTIVE guys to have sex with. NOT un fit guys.

January 28, 2011

Leigh

You are obsessed with physical appearance. This is not healthy. There is NO UPSIDE TO STAYING LIKE THIS. If you would like to enjoy ANYTHING in your life, please please try to do something to help yourself with this obsession.

You are like a person who is completely unhappy who thinks "if I could just get $3,987,7730,003,700 I will be happy. If I can't get $3,987,7730,003,700, I would just as soon kill myself."

Can you understand this? The hypothetical person won't get $3,987,7730,003,700, but even if they did, they would not find ANY RELEIF to their unhappiness.

NOBODY else out there in your world has the same standards of beauty that you do. The thinnest girl with straight teeth is not the most attractive to guys. There is such a thing as "magnetism" and that is an important aspect of attraction. Guys are going to overlook a few pounds and maybe not so "lustrous" hair in the presence of this compelling feature.

Anyway, I promise you that when the majority of hot guys get a very hot girl to have sex with them, they are not in awe over her "gorgeousness" and celebrating her body once they're getting down to business. In most cases, sadly, he will be interested in getting off, and then out of there.

Last thing I will say to you. Well, two things:

GET TO A POINT WHERE YOU REALIZE THAT YOU CAN'T GO ON LIKE THIS

GET THE RIGHT KIND OF HELP

January 28, 2011

That is not true.

There is such thing as women who look a way in which a lot of men feel very physically and sexually attracted to.

There are women out there, who have bodies and faces, that men look at, and want to f*ck - just based on the womens physical fesatures.

There are women who can get a guy to think they are gorgeous, " hot", and " very enjoyable to look at".

and NO - a women who is thin, who does Pilates, and who has a thin fit body, and straight teeth, is MORE PHYSICALLY APPEALING too LOOk at, than a girl with CROOKED teeth, and a LARGE body.

the majority of men would feel the thin women wigh straight teeth, is mroe physically pleasant too look at, than a heavy women with un symmetrical crooked teeth.

a SMALLER amount of men, would get to know the second women I described with the crooked teeth, and learn to l ove her for WHO SHE IS , and in turn, VIEW HER AS MORE AGTTRACTIVE than the thinner women with straight teeth.

but I want to be a women that at least SOME guys, SOME guys who are fit and attractive, think LOOKS gorgeous.

January 28, 2011

Ok. You want some constructive criticism? I think it would do you good to see a hair stylist, and possibly darken your hair a shade or two and take a few inches off. Your face looks long and thin, and that face type generally does better with a side part.

So quit crying, quit being histrionic, go to bed, call a hair stylist in the morning and report back after you get a new, hot, style.

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