Kamille Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Leigh, there's an important contradiction between what you've observed and what you've believed. You've observed that: but heavier girls with NON straight teeth, GET HOT GUYS. Yet you still believe that: the majority of men would feel the thin women wigh straight teeth, is mroe physically pleasant too look at, than a heavy women with un symmetrical crooked teeth. a SMALLER amount of men, would get to know the second women I described with the crooked teeth, and learn to l ove her for WHO SHE IS , and in turn, VIEW HER AS MORE AGTTRACTIVE than the thinner women with straight teeth. There is therefore something wrong with your analysis of the situation. Since you yourself have observed that heavier women with crooked teeth are able to land hot men, it must mean that what men like in women is a lot more diversified than what you think. THIS IS GOOD NEWS! Since you yourself have said you like how you look, it means you can stop torturing yourself about your appearance and start focusing on making your good qualities shine through. You can learn how to feel comfortable in social situation so that men start approaching you. You can learn to hold back when a man expresses interest in you so that you don't turn him off by being over-eager. The solution you're looking for isn't physiological. It's psychological. Please take the time to reach out to a therapist. Someone in cognitive therapy could do you a world of good. The thing with you is that you get a thought stuck in your head and it's impossible to talk you out of it. You have yet to answer any of my questions about what you expect men do when they are attracted to women. Do you think they automatically launch into a serenade or do you think they need some encouragement? Do you think they'll start by approaching you flat out, or start by trying to catch your eye? Do you think it's easy for men to approach women? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 28, 2011 Author Share Posted January 28, 2011 But at least my hair is thick; thin hair is lesss attractive than thick hair I think. And at least I am lean. Not stick thin, but a healthy thin. 114 lbs. A side part is easy. I am inept with hair andam LOW maintenance, yet I think I can even do a side part. If not - UTUBE or GOOGLE will be enough, for a person of at least average inelligence to follow the directions of. I Try to be as low maintenance as possible hence I wear m,y hair out, in a middle part, and wear little make up. I will change the side part, but I like my hair long:) Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Your hair will look thicker and healthier if you cut off the straggly ends. Just 2-3", and it will look a gazillion times better. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Leigh, I finally saw your profile and I agree with you: you are very pretty. You have a very nice smile. There is nothing physically wrong with you. You are definitely on the skinny side, but some men like that. The thing is, you cannot assume all men like it. I know men who love skinny, fit, women and I have known quite a few men who like women with, uh, curves. Attraction isn't a competition. Now that we've established that you physically have what it takes to land your dream guy, the second step is to coach you in how to be more flirtatious in social settings. You have yet to answer any of my questions about how you act when you see a guy you find is cute. Do you approach him? Do you smile at him? Do you try to catch his eye? Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 I just realised that this is another 'entitlement' thread along the lines of "I have [attractive features] therefore I should get hot [girls/guys]" Link to post Share on other sites
lenny Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 So I am also from a small town. When me an my girls decided to go out for a night on the town to a local pub, we're not getting checked out because we all know each other, and each other's history. In my experience, physical looks doesn't go very far at all. You might get approached by a stranger because of them but it's personality that will have a guy be around you for anything more than sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 I just realised that this is another 'entitlement' thread along the lines of "I have [attractive features] therefore I should get hot [girls/guys]" Now that you mention it, it's true! Sounds different coming from a woman, doesn't it. That being said, I think OP's coming from a very disturbed place and "entitlement" is not really what she is experiencing. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 I accidently posted the details of myself and a guy online. I scared him off by calling him too many times, and felt embarassed and humiliated, so I came on love shack to get advice and support. Unfortunately, i copy and pasted a conversation he sent me on love shack. His face book page was in it. Any one on love shack could have added him on face book, and told him bad things about me. He was very keen on me at first, but then after I called him to hang out, llike we had planned to, he ignored me. After I called him too many times and scared him off, he later sent a msg saying his friend got bashed. It turned out to be true. I saw his wall - he told other people about it. SO he sent me a couple of quick msgs tonight. THIS is what I am afraid of: Some NASTY person on love shack added him on face book, and told him nasty things about me that would really turn him off. So he is now sending me messages on face book, in the plan of doing something extra mean to me to get back at me for talking about him on the internet; or, whatever bad things the person onlove shack told him about me, could have been enough to annoy him, and so him and the person from love shack could have suggested a nasty plan to get back at me. I HOPE he is not planning something nasty; such as meeting up with me and throwing eggs at me, or anything nasty. Didn't you hit the "alert us" key immediately and ask for the facebook links to be removed? All you can do now is close your fb account, and create a new one, do not add him, obviously and invite your friends that you know and trust, put your settings to private, the search function to noone can find you or only friends of friends (hopefully you two have no mutual friends).. Ignore this guy from now on, don't let him scare you! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Sweetie, you need to call your therapist and make an appt again.. the mindset you're in is not good. You are beautiful. You need to believe in YOU and love YOURSELF before any man can make you feel secure and good about yourself. I do hope you stop bashing yourself and putting yourself down. It serves no purpose to do that! All it's doing is making you feel worse. Link to post Share on other sites
Jannah Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 I'm beginning to think you're part of mafia wars or something...why else would you keep talking about facebook, posting links to facebook, and the like? Link to post Share on other sites
depplover_1980 Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Sending some belongings to the floods and other charity work could be good for two reasons: 1. You will feel better about yourself for helping others in the world. 2. Guys are attracted to kind women. Are you REALLY suicidal, do you really want to die? If so read this when feeling that way: http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/ SUICIDE IS THE MOST SELFISH THING YOU WOULD DO AND YOUR MOTHER WOULD NEVER BE HAPPY AGAIN. Start thinking of others than yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Surrealist Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Well the only reason why I have come to post on this thread is to confirm Leigh's suspicions! I'm friends with Leigh on facebook and some wise woman just posted a link to this thread with the following message: I am not sure if you are the guy she is talking about, but this chick is flipped. If you ARE the guy that she is trying so desperately to hook up with, you may want to sort of avoid her. There are some absolutely gutless hateful people on here as it would seem. It would also appear there are some liars, possibly the one who messaged me is also the one who is telling Leigh on here to stop being paranoid and seek a therapist. Whoever you are, you are a very revengeful hateful and spiteful woman - spamming Leigh's friends list of guys to post those messages. I will retain the message. Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 *Sits on lawn chair* Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Well the only reason why I have come to post on this thread is to confirm Leigh's suspicions! I'm friends with Leigh on facebook and some wise woman just posted a link to this thread with the following message: There are some absolutely gutless hateful people on here as it would seem. It would also appear there are some liars, possibly the one who messaged me is also the one who is telling Leigh on here to stop being paranoid and seek a therapist. Whoever you are, you are a very revengeful hateful and spiteful woman - spamming Leigh's friends list of guys to post those messages. I will retain the message. Wow, creepy much? Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Well the only reason why I have come to post on this thread is to confirm Leigh's suspicions! I'm friends with Leigh on facebook and some wise woman just posted a link to this thread with the following message: There are some absolutely gutless hateful people on here as it would seem. It would also appear there are some liars, possibly the one who messaged me is also the one who is telling Leigh on here to stop being paranoid and seek a therapist. Whoever you are, you are a very revengeful hateful and spiteful woman - spamming Leigh's friends list of guys to post those messages. I will retain the message. That's really really awful. Shocking. It's very difficult to process how someone can fall that low (and that they have nothing better to do with their time :sick:). How incredibly sad :( Link to post Share on other sites
ReadyforLove Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 *grabs popcorn* Link to post Share on other sites
elastica Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Well the only reason why I have come to post on this thread is to confirm Leigh's suspicions! I'm friends with Leigh on facebook and some wise woman just posted a link to this thread with the following message: There are some absolutely gutless hateful people on here as it would seem. It would also appear there are some liars, possibly the one who messaged me is also the one who is telling Leigh on here to stop being paranoid and seek a therapist. Whoever you are, you are a very revengeful hateful and spiteful woman - spamming Leigh's friends list of guys to post those messages. I will retain the message. did she send a private message to you? Link to post Share on other sites
Surrealist Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 did she send a private message to you? Correct, I wouldn't be surprised if it is a fake facebook account. The name is Allyson Keith. Link to post Share on other sites
elastica Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Correct, I wouldn't be surprised if it is a fake facebook account. The name is Allyson Keith. If she is sending messages to everyone, then she probably got the idea to do it from this thread. I mean, she couldn't have read the original thread with the links to him/her (because she would know exactly who to message). :sick: Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 28, 2011 Author Share Posted January 28, 2011 DOn't worry, I have sent a message to the guy, telling him what happened. I do not think he will understand - he does not seam like the sort of guy that knows about websites like love shack. I said sorry to him, that it was an accident, and that I was simply embarrassed about calling him so much and just wanted advice about how I can better go about things - from people on here. I doubt this will fully appease him - I mean, he was on face book an hour ago apparently, saying he was bored and what shoulod he to today - yeah, that cvonfirms he is no longer considering ever having anything to do with me, like he first suggested a few days ago, before this all happened. I am waiting for an abusive message back from him. Or - I suspect something along the lines of " k, just leave me alone now thnks" You know, just a short reply like that - which is better than abuse I guess. Still. I am not eating again. I feel too sick and I do not want to live and starving is the only way I can fathom ending it. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Leigh, I think you should have a delicious snack, put this mishap behind you and look forward to your school which is starting up soon. Something good to look forward to. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leigh 87 Posted January 28, 2011 Author Share Posted January 28, 2011 Eating is THE LAST THING I want to do. I am enforcing a self imposed starvation. The guy, who only MET me about 4 days ago, now officially thinks I Am crazy. I dont get it - I am inxperienced with men, I called him too many timesd and got embarrassed about it, and was upset, so came to ;ove shack and asked for advice. I hate how some guys think this is crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 I am enforcing a self imposed starvation. THAT is CRAZY. Link to post Share on other sites
ReadyforLove Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Leigh, this whole thread is an entire bag of craziness. You should really stop adding to this thread for your own sake. Just.log.off... Link to post Share on other sites
Cee Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 Leigh, remember that his man is total stranger. He doesn't know you and you don't know him. What he thinks is not important. And what he thinks has no bearing on what other men will think in the future. I suggest you detach from him and unfriend him on Facebook. And delete his phone number. And spend some quality face to face time with a trusted friend or family member. For me, talking with friends helps me feel less unloved and alone. Link to post Share on other sites
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