onlinenow Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 After a 6 years relation (a serious attempt to break up after the second year - she wanted to be just friends) my ex broke off via a message (SMS). That was all.. After 4 month I got in touch with her and I meet her (one meeting face 2 face). What should I do? To became friend with her and try to get back with her? She said that it's not physically attracted to me, that she has no feelings and right now it feels great as a single. Why I want to get back with her? Because: We have a real fun together (she said the same, but just like friends) I like how physical looks I still have feelings for her and others.. Why she broke up with me? Because: She wanted freedom She didn't want to give explanations about anything Physically didn't behave naturally with me (felt compelled) and bonus.. after 6 years she still thinking to the ex - saw him one day- was confused after she discussed a little bit with him (was left for another girl - I didn't know that). At this moment, after the first meeting live I told her that we should be friends and that anything can happen in the future (to remain friends, to get back.. or anything). She accepted, but she told me that I must not think to get back with her because is impossible. I have 3 options: - To to stay with her as a best friend - To to stay with her as a best friend and try to rekindle the spark and if is not working to ignore her - To ignore her and before that to say what is in my mind Thank you! Edit Post Reply Reply With Quote
edgeofdarkness Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 forth option, do not meet, do not keep contact, end it mov on forget it. best uf the lot. i promis u. N everyone will say the same thing. if u meet up with her yr an idiot, really, honest, dude.
PowerOfOne Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Meeting up with an ex if you're not over them is very dangerous. I can't stress this enough. As much as I'd love for her to want to meet up - the idea that it'll only be for coffee as friends and she'll want to discuss her new guy or how it's nice we can catchup as friends. No thanks, I'll pass. The risk-reward equation just doesn't add up. The percentage chance that she wants to get back together isn't great. And the risk... well, I think everyone on this board knows what 'day 1' feels like. The only lifetime in which I'll meet up with an ex is when I am completly indifferent to them. And it will take a lot of honesty with yourself to get to that stage.
Author onlinenow Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 I met her once (3 days ago - I know, I'm an idiot). I called her (after 3-4 month of no-contact - maybe 2-3 sms from me without an answer). I know that I didn't get over the break up (the felling on my chest is on), but when I met her I was funny, relaxed.. We could be friends .. Maybe.. But to know that is not my girl and now or in future will have a boyfriend.. I can't.. I said "She accepted, but she told me that I must not think to get back with her because is impossible.". So is not possible to make her want me again? The best option is to let it go? And if she want something will contact me?
z00m25 Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 yeah def quit talking to her, your only going to make it harder on yourself and easier for her.
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