Hopeovexperience Posted March 22, 2004 Posted March 22, 2004 I'll try to keep this brief... it's a long, long story most of which has already been posted here... but I need to decide what to do about something I know about my ex's current gf. Three weeks after he and I split up and they got together, I saw her out with another guy and it was obviously not a platonic friendship. He was all over her but she, presumably aware of my presence, was not reciprocating. I did nothing at the time. I just wanted clean break from it all and didn't want to get involved. Now I hear other things and it's all adding up to a particularly unpleasant picture. He's bought it on himself and I wouldn't be telling him to get him back, just because I hate to think that he's being made such a fool of. It's none of my business I know but do you really just stand back and let someone get dumped all over even if they've done it to you?
midori Posted March 22, 2004 Posted March 22, 2004 Originally posted by Hopeovexperience It's none of my business I know but do you really just stand back and let someone get dumped all over even if they've done it to you? Yep. It's coming to him either way. You can't stop it. You don't want to be the bearer of bad tidings, especially since, in this context, it would look like you've got an agenda -- even if you don't. People learn through their experiences. When it all comes to light he'll have a chance to reflect on where he went wrong. If you intervene in any way, what should be a clear-cut picture for him ("I chose wrongly and was deceived") might get blurred. People don't like to see themselves as stupid or duped, so he might reinterpret things such that you had an active role in the whole mess, instead of just being a reporter. Stay out of it. And if you feel a bit smug, well, you're entitled!
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