daisyy Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Hey everyone - I need a guys point of view on something going on in my life! I had been "dating" a guy for about 1.5 months, then our conversation fizzled out and eventually we didnt talk at all for 3 weeks or so. During that time he would occasionally drunk text/dial one of my good friends, which was confusing to me, but seeings that he had been drinking it was really no big deal (not like he was doing it sober...). I still got irritated with it cause he wasn't trying to talk to me at all so I sent him a message telling him that i saw they are texting and calling and it's messed up, deleted him from my fb and just totally gave up. He called me on Monday to tell me something and it spiraled into a 1 1/2 hr convo on how he really missed me and wants to see me again and thinks about how nice things were when he was here and how he thinks I should give him another chance. He also stated he got freaked out about his feelings for me, as he has only felt like this for one other girl before me and he didnt know how to channel it and stopped talking for those reasons. He also told me there had been other girls during that time but he was always thinking of me and wishing he was with me. I was not exactly nice to him about things but certainly talked to him and decided to hear him out. I also said that we would see how he tried after the convo, he wanted to go to "text mode" as he put it, but didnt reply to the one text I sent him. He readded me to fb that night but I haven't heard from him since, that was 2 days ago. What do you think he is thinking? Is it worth it to try? Should I reach out?
Lauriebell82 Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Way too many red flags here. IMO it is NOT okay, for the guy you are dating to call/text another girl in a flirtateous manner, regardless of whether he is drinking. That's like saying it is okay that a guy cheated on you because he was drunk. Other red flags: 1. He got "scared" of his feelings after 1.5 months. How he will react if you guys actually get serious? 2. He told you he thought about you and wished he was with you when he was with other women. That is completely insensitive and just disrespectful. I'll bet he gives other girls that same line! 3. After trying to grovel (unsuccessfully), he went MIA again. Just lose this guy..he doesn't sound that great. He sounds like a huge player IMO. You are better off without him.
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