mysteryrain Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 I really need an advice, though i consulted book about my situation. Its still better to consult people . Here's my story I have a girlfriend, our relationship lasted for more than 2 years. But recently, she told me that she is going to break up with. I was shocked, I didn't see it coming. I asked her what the problem, why she suddenly decided to break up with me. She said , she have fallen for someone . Those words hurts me really bad, It feels like I wanna cry . I didn't say much to her and said " I see..." and added "i wish she would be happy with him"... I left her, until the following day, she talks to me asking why am i acting like a stranger to her. She even said that she thought we will stay as friends. I said, it is hard to do what she asking from me (to be friends) , i didn't tell her my reason though, instead i told her that she should not waste her time with me. and forget about me, and i'll forget about her too... And said that i love her for the last time, and good luck with her life. I stopped messaging her, deleted her from my contacts. After next 3 days, I learned that this new guy he fell for was her new boyfriend now. It was painful for my side again, it makes me think that i want to give up on her now. I admit, that past days when we are still together, i've been cold to her because i was busy with some work. She is still telling me that time sweet words, until the day she told me she wanted to break up with me. Now iam confuse, how did this happen? how can she fell for someone that fast? and how can she forget a relationship that lasted for more than 2 year and established a new relationship!? she does not contact me anymore, and i dont contact her anymore. But I still really love her .. Its already 3 weeks since that happen, and i dont know what to do anymore. Though the pain has already lessen and I stopped being depressed lately. I still can't remover her out of my mind. There is still a part of me, wanting her back at my arms. Hoping she will realize that she really loves me. I really need help, What should I do? BTW, the guy she fell for, she had just met that guy for 2 weeks
richbad08 Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Could be a rebound most likely. So don't even worry. Those don't last long. It sounds to me like she's probably been cheating on you. Continue NC and meet new people. Its going to be hard but I guarantee you its going to better for you in the long run. Your breaking up with her for all you know could be a blessing in disguise. DO NC! No matter how tempted you are to call DONT. It WILL make matters worse. Sometimes you have to know when to just move on.
Fern Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Stay busy! Even if all you want to do is mope - make yourself get up and out there and do stuff. Show her you are moving on with your life. Rejection stings, but you will come out the other side a stronger, better person. Eat right, get some exercise, take a class or join a club - get on with being good to yourself and stop focusing on her. Don't waste any more of your time on thinking about her. Start thinking about yourself - what can you do to make YOU happy. Sc**w her.
z00m25 Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Stay busy! Even if all you want to do is mope - make yourself get up and out there and do stuff. Show her you are moving on with your life. Rejection stings, but you will come out the other side a stronger, better person. Eat right, get some exercise, take a class or join a club - get on with being good to yourself and stop focusing on her. Don't waste any more of your time on thinking about her. Start thinking about yourself - what can you do to make YOU happy. Sc**w her. ^ good advice, do all of this. And dont give her the time of day, shes the one that messed up not you. Why should you be friends with the person that hurt you the most? Give it time and she will realize what she lost.
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