OceanGirl Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 I mean when you talk to them about it. Do you refer to it as "having sex" "making love" "screwing" or other?
Star Gazer Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Totally depends on the context, as all three different types of intercourse exist.
Seaofclouds Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Depends on the event. Sometimes it's "making love" other times it's "having sex" and sometimes it's just "screwing" or whatever other term you want to use.
Author OceanGirl Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 Is referring to it as "making love" too full on for new couples in any context?
zengirl Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Having sex. Making love has always sounded too 80s for me. My BF says it occasionally. That's fine. But it's not my thing. I don't care for screwing/banging/etc, unless we're joking around or something. Though I don't think we talk about it much in terms of saying, "Hey, let's go have sex now" or anything. We just kind of do it. Edit: To answer your other question, I think calling it "making love" sounds a little weird if you aren't in love. But maybe that's my "too 80s" notions speaking. Really, I don't think it's something to get all analytical and worry about. Unless he starts calling it "smooshing." Then, I'd run.
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 I refer to it as "taking a pummeling." Hope that helps.
Star Gazer Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Is referring to it as "making love" too full on for new couples in any context? In ANY context? I don't understand. I imagine for new couples, it's more making love than f*cking. Or, at least I'd hope so. That's the "type" where true intimacy is developed.
Star Gazer Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 OG, are you going to return to your other thread, the one so many people have put effort into??
xpaperxcutx Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Lol, if I was really corny, I say " sexy time". But sex is fine, it's not the context that counts, just the action.
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Vulcanize the whoopie stick, in the ham wallet!
Author OceanGirl Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 OG, are you going to return to your other thread, the one so many people have put effort into?? I can't return to it because I felt most posters were being unfair and it was putting me in a vary bad mood. I asked for advice and yet AGAIN everyone sided with the guy in question. I felt it was going off track at around page 4-5 and that's when I stopped reading. I couldn't believe the negativity directed at me. I am not going to be a masochist and make myself read something that only makes me upset. I will try and not post any more serious threads about my new relationship. I will see what happens naturally.
northern_sky Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 I can't return to it because I felt most posters were being unfair and it was putting me in a vary bad mood. I asked for advice and yet AGAIN everyone sided with the guy in question. I felt it was going off track at around page 4-5 and that's when I stopped reading. I couldn't believe the negativity directed at me. I am not going to be a masochist and make myself read something that only makes me upset. I will try and not post any more serious threads about my new relationship. I will see what happens naturally. Honestly, this is probably for the best. BTDT. There's no point in hurting yourself by reading nasty character attacks.
Star Gazer Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Honestly, this is probably for the best. BTDT. There's no point in hurting yourself by reading nasty character attacks. What character attacks? Calling her selfish? Even YOU said that, and that's not a character attack but rather a mere observation about her behavior. OG will NEVER, I repeat, NEVER, learn from her MISTAKES if she doesn't realize that's in fact what she's doing: making a ton of mistakes. She thinks everything she does is okay.
somedude81 Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Anything is fine as long as it's obvious. I just really hate the term, "hooking up." It's too ambitious.
Author OceanGirl Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 What character attacks? Calling her selfish? Even YOU said that, and that's not a character attack but rather a mere observation about her behavior. OG will NEVER, I repeat, NEVER, learn from her MISTAKES if she doesn't realize that's in fact what she's doing: making a ton of mistakes. She thinks everything she does is okay. I have already learned a lot from my mistakes. If I haven't, I would still be stuck in unrequited love scenario with my boss. I still have a lot to learn. If this relationship doesn't work out (and I am fully aware of the fact that it most likely won't) I will learn not to criticize man's sexual performance, at least not as early on and at least not as tactlessly as I did. Unfortunately, I learn best from experience rather than advice.
Lovelybird Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 if the sex happened at 7th date, I'd call it "screwing"
Pyro Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 we say ****ing for the most part. Sexin the other times.
Author OceanGirl Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 if the sex happened at 7th date, I'd call it "screwing" You seriously think that 7th date is too early for sex???
Lovelybird Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 You seriously think that 7th date is too early for sex??? yes, it is my personal opinion. On 7th date, if there is a word infatuate-not-know-well-sex, I'd use it. Definitely won't use "make love", there isn't love yet
LexiB Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 (edited) I have already learned a lot from my mistakes. If I haven't, I would still be stuck in unrequited love scenario with my boss. I still have a lot to learn. If this relationship doesn't work out (and I am fully aware of the fact that it most likely won't) I will learn not to criticize man's sexual performance, at least not as early on and at least not as tactlessly as I did. Unfortunately, I learn best from experience rather than advice. If you could learn the bolded now as opposed to a few months or weeks from now upon the demise of your relationship, you might actually be able to save what you have with your bf. The mercilessness of your actions is really the gist of what everyone was trying to point out to you in that thread. I hope you'll take at least that much away from it. As far as the OP: I prefer the 90s phrase, "getting my freak on", if that helps. Edited January 27, 2011 by LexiB
Roadlesstaken Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 At the beginning of a relationship, I would call it "knockin boots".
tinktronik Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 For the first time: Less that 3 months after meeting, a hit-and-run. Anything 3+ months, having sex. 6 months +, making love.
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