Well now what?

[This Is A Username]

Ooook here goes.

 

I met a girl last summer. We clicked, and began seeing each other in late August. Shes 24, I'm 29. All of the fall was a blast. We went camping, went out of town on the weekends, laughed a lot, etc etc. All in all, we vibed well and it felt right.

 

Everything remained good until right around early December. I cant really say what it was, but in some way she became withdrawn and less communicative with me. One major positive between us is that even with uncomfortable topics of discussion like this, we are able to discuss it pretty openly. She said she typically pulls away in the winter time and doesn't socialize much and that her lack of communicating that in the past has caused difficulty in other relationships. At first it sounded like a cop-out until I read up on Seasonal Affective Disorder (we live in Michigan) and this winter has been especially brutal.

 

On top of that, she came off birth control riiiiiight around the same time which she had been taking since she was 16. I know its a lame male excuse to blame any emotional issues of women on "hormones", but maybe thats a legit possibility?

 

At any rate, things have been dramatically different since then and we see each other a lot less. She feels and acts quite differently at times. I really like this girl and under other circumstances I probably would have already ended the relationship...but there is something that tells me to wait and see if things change. However, trying to deal with that is pretty difficult at times and sometimes I want to just walk. I still keep busy and see friends so even though its obviously a concern, its not my only focus.

 

She is a very independent person, and sort of accepts things as her cross to bear. If she wants support, she'll ask for it. I still offer, but I don't sit around waiting for her.

 

Im torn on what to do next. Its hard to get advice from friends because theres a level of emotional bias, so the internets seemed like a good option.

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Please do not question a woman's hormones, they are genuine, and being a woman myself I can tell you, they're a b-.

 

If she's getting off her pills, I would give her a valid reason.

 

I guess all you can really do is take her at her words and start seeing other people

[This Is A Username]

I dont question it as a valid reason. I just didn't want to chalk it up to that and that alone, I guess.

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I dont question it as a valid reason. I just didn't want to chalk it up to that and that alone, I guess.

Well what other reason do you want? That she doesn't like you?

[This Is A Username]

I cant say for certain what level that plays into it because I dont personally experience it. If you say it has a significant impact, then so be it.

[This Is A Username]

Is that a serious question? Yes, we have sex.

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Is that a serious question? Yes, we have sex.

 

See, that changes things.

[This Is A Username]

I'm sorry. I realized after the fact that there are people who come here who aren't in sexual relationships or are still virgins. Sorry if I sounded condescending.

 

But yes, we do have sex.