Fooshoo Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 I met a girl at a superbowl party in 2008. We had instant chemistry. started dating and fell in love. not luv, Love. We talked marriage and all that fun stuff. I never have before and since even had that thought enter my head. she was the most amazing girl i had ever met. I thought she was the one. flash forward to summer of 09. I had just lost my job, working odd jobs to pay bills. i had to take my car off the road bc i was living day to day. we were still going strong me and this girl, but this was the hardest part of my young life. in december she started goin snowboarding which i was fine with bc i was working 50 hour weeks at a korean owned liquor store so i couldn't get off if i was dying. my girlfriend told me she was goin snowboarding with one of her girlfriends and one of the girlfriends guy friends. fine with me. I saw pics of this trip on her facebook. they were only of this guy and my girlfriend. the other girl wasn't in the backround, and wasn't holding the camara. so i asked her what was this about. her response was "well we were on a more advanced hill" i was ok with it bc it wasn't a big deal. around christmas time i was working every night, so on fridays my girlfriend and some of her friends would go to a comedy club. i found out that the snowboarding guy was goin to these things too, but the mutual girlfriend was not, and never was. so yes that would mean, my girlfriend invited him. i never made a big thing about it bc i am ok with having friends of the opposite sex plus it was a group of people going, and i met the snowboard guy he wasn't a threat to me. my girlfriend and I spent new years together everything was still going fine. right after new years she went snowboarding again. but this time it was with snowboard guy and three of his friends who she didn't know, and they spent two nights at his sisters house. I made a big deal of this. she got pissed i got over it. now i am working at a car dealership, 12 hours a day 6 days a week. i got off for the superbowl, bc that was when we first met so we make a thing of it. everything was great. a week after the superbowl, she calls me at work and say she needs to break up with me, her reasons. 1) she didn't like that i was always so lazy.(12 hours 6 days a week. the energizer bunny would be tired too) 2)she didn't think i was as committed to her as i use to be. 3)she felt like i was using her, because she came to my house more than i would go to her house. She still wanted to be friends. I didn't want to lose her so i said ok. this is early to mid feb. by late march she tells me "I am in a relationship with someone else" I find out it is snowboard guy. I am still not ready to give up on this. we stayed friends and went out and spent more time together then when we were goin out. we went to dinner, split the bill of course bc it would be a date then, we cuddled and watched movies, she would lie to snowboard guy and lie to him when she was with me they never had sex, so she says. I tried movin in romantically but she said "i can't do that, im not that kind of girl, i technickilly have a boyfirend right now" so the only thing that changed is we didn't have sex and we didn't make out. This went on until about 3 weeks ago. 18 days ago to be exact. then she said to me "I am going to see snowboard guy, to break up with him" finally i thought I had won. then she said to me "we need to put the brakes on this friendship too, It just isn't working out the way i thought it would" I was crushed. So now i am at my wits end because it has been three weeks since i last talked to her. the longest we have ever gone since we met was two days. I stopped using facebook because i couldn't stop lookin at her page, and i found out tonight, she is in a relationship with a new guy. I wrote this and almost sent it i guess you really must have cared for me. at least you waited a month or so before gettin into a relationship with someone else. I'm sure whatever the justification you made up for this makes perfect sense, at least in your mind. It's nice to finally see your true colors shine through the facade. Your not what you make your self out to be, I thought you were greatest thing ever put on this earth, but it turns out your no different than all the other stupid girls I meet. You get what you need and move on. The only difference is they want something immediate something physical, you on the otherhand want to suck the emotion dry from anyone who gives a crap about you until you find some other idiot who gives you the attention you so despertly seek. Your worse than a monkey in a tree, at least the tree knew ahead of time how much the monkey likes to swing. so hold tight to the branch you have now monkey, I'd hate to see you fall and end up your biggest fear, alone. so don't call me don't txt me don't even msg me back, I am done with you. no i am not mad at you, i am disappointed. And not even disappointed with you, I am disappointed with me for thinking you might be someone important. I am not gonna send it, not because i fear the reprocussions, but because I am better than this. I just feel like she left me for snowboard guy, and now doesn't want me to in her life bc of this new guy, also i think she what she did to snowboard is worse bc she wwas with me behind his back than broke up with him for the new guy. I guess after what she was capable of doing to snowboard guy i shouldn't be so surprised she turned out the way she did. I just wish i could understand how she could casually forget the last almost 3 years of her life. so carelessly push me out of her life like i never exisisted. I just want to know if anyone is as stupid as I am. this isn't a normal breakup story, we broke up a year ago and stop being friends 3 weeks ago. not for any bad reasons either. and this hurts more because it feels more permenent. I know the logical thing is to let her go, but i want her back, and i don't even know why i should bother anymore. I guess i am just confused. Any advice would be greatly appreciated
seibert253 Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Time and Distance my friend. Only things that heal a broken heart. Continue your NC. Eventually she'll text, call, email, with the "how you doing" fishing expedition. Don't bite. Just drive on. Oh, the one other thing that helps you get over your XGF, is your NEXT girlfriend.
notsure15 Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 you got played, it hurts. dont go near her and you will bounce back.
heartshaped Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 She's a serial cheater which means she has no respect for you or herself. You need to move on so you can begin to heal.
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