rebeccaD Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 I ended it last week Thursday,kicked my husband Jeffry out.He came back and I told him to pack his things and to leave.I could not take what he did to me,the cheating and the abuse to me.We argued a lot before we seperated 3 monthes ago.He has slapped me twice and punched me once.I did press charges which he was charged and convicted of domestic violence.I did file divorce the following day too and had the divorce papers served by a process server.Got a call from the process server this afternoon,my husband signed the papers which he was served at his workplace.I see my lawyer tommorrow and the good news is we don't have children.I know the divorce is not going to be easy.I plan on going after my husband for spousal support.I did get rid of my wedding and engagement ring today,sold them to pawn shop and glad these are gone.I do have support from family and friends.
whichwayisup Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 You've done the right thing. As hard as it's been and will be for a while, you've saved yourself YEARS of heartache and pain, both mentally and physically. He is messed up and has many issues, so please, don't beat yourself up or blame yourself for HIS choices. You did nothing wrong. It's good there are no kids involved, and that you have alot of support from family and friends.
dng Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 I ended it last week Thursday,kicked my husband Jeffry out.He came back and I told him to pack his things and to leave.I could not take what he did to me,the cheating and the abuse to me.We argued a lot before we seperated 3 monthes ago.He has slapped me twice and punched me once.I did press charges which he was charged and convicted of domestic violence.I did file divorce the following day too and had the divorce papers served by a process server.Got a call from the process server this afternoon,my husband signed the papers which he was served at his workplace.I see my lawyer tommorrow and the good news is we don't have children.I know the divorce is not going to be easy.I plan on going after my husband for spousal support.I did get rid of my wedding and engagement ring today,sold them to pawn shop and glad these are gone.I do have support from family and friends. Just curious here, but you have no kids, why do you want to get spousal support? That will ensure you have to deal with this guy for years to come and ensure he will hate you forever.
Author rebeccaD Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 I found out when I was 15,one ovary did not develop and doctor said I can't get pregnant later in my life.I want him to pay for what he did to me.My family and friends say I deserve better.Plus I am seeing a therapist for help once a week,it has helped greatly.My therapist Patti said I have been traumatized badly.I am not blaming myself for his choices.Husband admitted to cheating on me with over 10 women.Yes,a police officer was there when I told him to pack his things and leave if any problems happened.
Ms. Red Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Good for you rebeccaD. You seem to be handling things very well. I wish you the best and for a short recovery from your divorce.
Author rebeccaD Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 I am handling everything very well and I credit my father to this.I am a very strong woman because of him.He taught me to stick up for myself when I was 12 years old and don't put up with any BS.I am sleeping well at night since this happened.I have a great lawyer that is a divorce lawyer.A couple of my friends and I celebrated this Saturday night and made toast to a better life for me.Looks like the divorce is not going to take very long if it goes the right way.Plus I am going after him for some money.I put $20,000.00 in a property investment and there was a written contract.I get my money back,if I want out which is in the contract and I do want out.
Enema Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 I hope you get your money back, but I hope you don't get spousal support. GL with your new life.
Author rebeccaD Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 I was on the phone tonight with my lawyer and I have to scrap the spousal support.Said it would a huge waste of time and I took his advice.I see my lawyer at 1:00 PM.I did keep the contract for the investment property and bringing that with me.I don't throw out important information for this reason.Plus he has two shot guns that are mine,both were put in my name and have the paperwork for this too which are going with me tommorrow.
What_Next Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Good for you to get away from him. I agree with your lawyer regarding the spousal support, just leave it be. Get away from him and move on with your life.
Author rebeccaD Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 Saw my lawyer this morning and changed it to this morning last night.Went through the paperwork on the investment property and the two shotguns.Have a strong case so far and he was glad I saved the paperwork.He moved out,the house is in my name and inherited it 5 years ago from my grandparents.He had a hopped up Honda that he loved.Repo company repoed it,husband is behind payments.I told him I wanted it out of my garage or I was going pull it out with my 2009 1/2 ton Chevy Silverado 4x4 hooked up with a chain.I am keeping my head up high still and not giving up.Hopefully the divorce proceeding can start next month.I have my plans after the divorce,take a break before starting the dating scene again and I am not going to rush into this.
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