Married or women in ltr what goes through your mind when you see a good looking guy

[SteveC80]

If you see or are talking to a real hot guy Do you get a tingly feeling down below? Do you think what it would be like to sleep with him? Or do you just think well hes attractive and thats the end of it?

[mo mo]

I get a tingly feeling down below just from reading your posts big boy

[Mad Max]

OP, you said in prior posts you're this model handsome guy. You should know.

[Stung]

OP, you said in prior posts you're this model handsome guy. You should know.

 

While I agree with your inference that the OP is full of BS, I feel compelled to point out that model-handsome men don't automatically know what married women think/feel around them.

 

I'm married and I think of and look at the vast majority of men, including very objectively attractive men, as neuter-smooth Ken dolls. I value the guys in my life for their friendship because of their characters and wit, and if they happen to be very good looking that's cool too and I might check them out once or twice at first but it doesn't inspire any tingling. They don't register as actual potential sex partners on my radar.

 

Twice that I can recall in the six years since I started seeing my husband I actually met men who sparked some kind of pheromonal/chemical rush. They had a greater impact on me for whatever reason, my heartrate picked up a little bit, I noticed their little details much more sharply than I usually do: the way they smelled, the timbre of their voices, the texture of their skin and stubble. They were no more attractive than some of the other men I know, objectively, and I wasn't tingling or drooling or spiraling into sex fantasy, but something about them made some part of me sit up and pay attention. And so, I made a mental note to NOT hang around talking for a long time with that guy and NOT stay in touch with him or revisit his place of work, etc. Now I can't remember much about them or what it might have been that sparked some interest in the first place. In the end, really not a big deal.

[Mad Max]

While I agree with your inference that the OP is full of BS, I feel compelled to point out that model-handsome men don't automatically know what married women think/feel around them.

 

 

This is true. I highly doubt the OP is as good looking as he says he is. I've been approached to model(did briefly for a womens clothing store). Married women do flirt, but most know where the line is. I've had married women hit on me, but I know they're married so I wouldn't cross that line.

[Ruby Slippers]

When I'm in a relationship, I really don't look at other men in a sexual way at all. It's like that part of my brain just shuts off, and all the lusty thoughts and feelings are reserved for my guy.

 

I have figured out that I am very much in the minority on this, and I'm fine with that.

[Content]

Ever see those videos of how women act in male strip clubs?

 

Im sure most women think dirty thoughts

[LittleTiger]

I'm very happy in a LTR and to be honest I don't think there are that many good looking guys around.

 

On the very odd occasion that I've come across one I considered 'nice to look at' that's what I've done - look.

 

Since attraction is about something much deeper than looks for me a 'good looking guy' never got anything tingling, even when I was single, unless he had something much more interesting about him than just a pretty face or a well toned body.

 

I can probably count on one hand the number of guys who have induced any tingles in me throughout my entire life (I'm 46) so the chances of coming across one who could turn my head (or any other part of me) away from my current man is about as close to zero as it's possible to get.

[Mad Max]

Ever see those videos of how women act in male strip clubs?

 

Im sure most women think dirty thoughts

 

 

Thinking and acting on it are two completely different things.

[Content]

Thinking and acting on it are two completely different things.

 

i didnt say theyd cheat i just think women are as horny as men and like variety and think impure thoughts wen they see a good looking guy

[carhill]

'If I weren't married, I'd so do him'

 

I didn't have to wonder, as the above was courtesy of my exW

[Mad Max]

i didnt say theyd cheat i just think women are as horny as men and like variety and think impure thoughts wen they see a good looking guy

 

 

Of course they're just as horny. Thinking about it is one thing. Acting on it is something else.

[LittleTiger]

i didnt say theyd cheat i just think women are as horny as men and like variety and think impure thoughts wen they see a good looking guy

 

Then you clearly don't understand women's sexuality.

[LittleTiger]

Of course they're just as horny. Thinking about it is one thing. Acting on it is something else.

 

Actually most of us really don't 'think about it' the way men do at all. Women's arousal mechanism is fundamentally different from men's.

 

Even the women who talk like Carhill's ex and those who are ogling guys on a stage in a strip club are not feeling or experiencing what men do when they ogle women.

 

How many women do you know who masturbate over pictures of men in magazines? I suspect none....... because we're not wired to be visually stimulated in the same way.

[Woggle]

Women are just as horny as men are. Correct me if I am wrong but they probably do what I do which is notice somebody else is very attractive and then move on. Just because I can see that a woman is very good looking does not mean that I want to cheat with her and I assume that is the same for women.

[Mad Max]

Actually most of us really don't 'think about it' the way men do at all. Women's arousal mechanism is fundamentally different from men's.

 

 

Women have the same thoughts. The only difference is they're not as open about it.

 

 

How many women do you know who masturbate over pictures of men in magazines? I suspect none....... because we're not wired to be visually stimulated in the same way.

 

 

Even those that do are not going to admit it. Women are visually stimulated as well. They just don't admit it.

[Mad Max]

And for the record, I see how women act around good looking men. I modeled for a store, I would know. And unlike the OP, I can back up my physical features.

[LittleTiger]

Women have the same thoughts. The only difference is they're not as open about it.

 

Even those that do are not going to admit it. Women are visually stimulated as well. They just don't admit it.

 

Of course women have sexual thoughts and I don't think any of us deny that. If you've ever been onto the marriage/life-partnership forum or the sex forum you may well have read some of my personal thoughts on the subject. What I'm saying is that the way we think and our response to those thoughts is different. It's not a choice or something we're ashamed of or too embarrassed to admit, we are just different from men.

 

Yes, women are visually stimulated but not in the same way as men. Many women enjoy porn for instance which is obviously visual but it's a very rare woman (I've never heard of a single one) who would choose to masturbate over a still photograph of a naked or half naked man she doesn't even know. It's a physiological thing.

 

You can pretend that you understand women's sexuality by assuming it's the same as yours but you would do better to listen to what women actually say and stop assuming you know what they're thinking.

[Mad Max]

You can pretend that you understand women's sexuality by assuming it's the same as yours but you would do better to listen to what women actually say and stop assuming you know what they're thinking.

 

 

Basic aspects of sexuality(like the desire for sex) is universal. There's no reason to listen to what women say because what they say and what they actually do/desire are usually completely different. Men that are successful with women don't listen to what they say. They go by actions and that's what I'll continue to do.

[LittleTiger]

Basic aspects of sexuality(like the desire for sex) is universal. There's no reason to listen to what women say because what they say and what they actually do/desire are usually completely different. Men that are successful with women don't listen to what they say. They go by actions and that's what I'll continue to do.

 

Boy am I glad I'm not in the dating market these days!

 

You all (male and female) have a very strange way of thinking about relationships and sex.

 

Good luck to you.

[Star Gazer]

When in a relationship, I lose all sexual feelings for all men other than my own. I can recognize a man is objectively attractive, but my mind and loins go no further than that. The only guy who gets me excited is my own.

[carhill]

MadMax, the topic did invite the women here to say something, and apparently some have. I enjoy listening to what they have to say and then, with that information in hand, go out into the world and match it up with what they do. It's one aspect of people-picking and, IMO, more information is good information

 

BTW, FTR, the quote in my prior post was heard numerous (meaning more than ten) times in the years prior to my EA. I don't wish to leave any ambiguity about that. I have no actual knowledge or proof of her acting on that *while* we were married.

[whichwayisup]

If you see or are talking to a real hot guy Do you get a tingly feeling down below? Do you think what it would be like to sleep with him? Or do you just think well hes attractive and thats the end of it?

 

If I see a good looking guy, that's all he is to me. Good looking. I'll check out his package, his body, his eyes, hair, ass, whatever..But it doesn't turn me on. A look, and that's it. Not a whole lot of thought is put into it.

 

If I see a good looking that 'catches my eye' and I feel something, chemistry, then yes, I feel something below. Though that's rare.

 

It is what it is, not a big deal.

[whichwayisup]

The other thing is, I'll check out woman too, if one catches my eye. To see her hair bounce, how her figure looks, dress clinging to her, her boobs (bounce, natural or fake) but again, it's not a big deal. I'm a visual person and I enjoy people watching. It's not a sexual thing for me.

 

I may be married but I'm not dead. My H will look too and we talk about it. I'll point out some women to him (look left, white shirt, big boobs) and he'll look.. Again..NOT a big deal.

[january2011]

When I was in an LTR, I could acknowledge good-looking guys, just as I could acknowledge good-looking girls - beauty is beauty, in my book. It didn't mean that I was attracted to them, the guys.

 

Towards the latter part of the LTR, I felt a very strong attraction for another guy (he was probably above-average in looks and bordering on model material but what was key was the attraction and not that he was objectively good-looking). Nonetheless, I didn't act upon those feelings because I was still in the LTR and didn't want to give it up based on what could just be a fleeting attraction. Unfortunately, the experience signalled the beginning of the end for the relationship because I withdrew from the relationship and we became more distant. Interestingly, the following year, my partner decided to propose. Oh dear.

 

With hindsight, I should have ended the relationship and saved us both a few years of slow torturous pain as the relationship unravelled.

Edited January 26, 2011 by january2011