ScarletMeshell Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 (edited) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t262309/ My ex contacted me and told me "baby come here, I miss you both so much, I want to make love to you" Stupidly I hoped that he wantd to reconcile. I was thinking insde He Loves Me! Today he said that he did miss his daughter and I and wanted to make love to me but didn't want to hurt the woman he left us for. She was with him when he was lonely and needed him the most she didn't deserve to be hurt. He couldn't promise me anything more. It made me feel like I wasn't worth anything. It really hurts. Why didn't I deserve not to be hurt? So my real question is since he lives in Europe, isn't email updates and pictures of our daughter good enough for now? She's only 2 and doesn't really know the difference. I would rather not speak to him on the phone or txt or chat or webcam right now. Perhaps when I'm stronger I could bring a friend or family member with us for visitation. I want to be a whole person for myself and my baby. I'm afraid it will take longer to heal if I have to talk to him. Thank you for reading and for your support. Edited January 26, 2011 by ScarletMeshell
dolphinity Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 My ex was playing me too. I was even allowing it for a while, then on the 23rd of this month our 1 yr anniversary, I asked him to make a decision either way. He said "we need to end this". I agreed. This breakup has been going on for 4 months with me chasing him. Now he is text me last night "you don't have to respond but nite nite" damn right I dont have to respond. I won't. I suggest you end it here, he is a user, mean, spiteful and rude (okay maybe I was talking about my ex guy). I do not want a guy like that..seriously think about it..do you? Gosh yes it's hard, but it is harder to live like this anymore. Do not be friends, do not be lovers (thats the most belittling thing) do not move back in. that's what I tell myself. There is a man out there who will love me, and never treat me like THAT in a million years. Thinking back how disgusting!! He never did deserve me, I am betting yours doesnt deserve you. STOP EVERYTHING!! I am just a couple of days into this, don't have room to advise..just know that your not the only one. OMG gosh I cant believe how immature my ex is..unbelievable..we are in our 40s..and how dumb for me to buy any of what he was selling. Slow manipulation is how that happened.
dolphinity Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 I am telling myself right now do not text back...
depplover_1980 Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 If anyone ever said 'come here baby, I want to make love to you' I would first throw up and then realise they were faking.
Author ScarletMeshell Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 If anyone ever said 'come here baby, I want to make love to you' I would first throw up and then realise they were faking. Thanks for the tip.
Author ScarletMeshell Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 I am telling myself right now do not text back... Thank you four you advice and encouragement dolphinity. It is helpful to know I'm not the only one that is dealing with this.
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