befreckled Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 In my thoughts about taking a step back from being the initiator, I wonder about the question in reference to gifts? Everyone loves to get a gift, no matter how small. Does the lack of it, mean anything? In the short time that I've been with the bf, I have not received a gift at all. I had sent a surprise birthday cake to him on his birthday and I gave him a book at Christmas. When I visited his parents, I brought small token gifts as well. And well, I have gotten nothing. Admittedly, I don't think it's because he is stingy- he was more than ok with a more expensive motel because, I couldn't deal with roughing it during our vacation. He always paid for drinks when we were out. He paid for the movie tickets during our movie date. When we made dinner together, he realised that I hated a particular vegetable and deliberately left it out when dishing out my share. Personally, I think he is insanely BAD at things like gifts and he is so used to being a poor PHD student, he doesn't know how to operate in the "Oh I am working and therefore can afford a gift or two" Does not getting gifts make you feel less than?
Els Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 In the context of your R, I would say no, it shouldn't matter.
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