Disillusioned Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 The good news is, my best friend has recently gone back to school in order to reboot his life as his very nasty divorce drags on. The bad news is, he has let school take over his life, and he seems to enjoy it... even though his schedule has become so chaotic, he now spends almost all of his leisure time by himself, he's about to get fired from his highest-paying part-time job, and he doesn't even seem to care about getting his sheet music book printed so he can sell copies of it and make money. Everything in his life is school, school, school... he is losing a lot of sleep and is passing up a few good jobs in the process. Is this pretty much the rule for people who go back to school to get a degree? My friend acts like he's neglecting everything else in life. I've really started to wonder whether he and I would be better off if we went our separate ways.
beerman101 Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 It's only natural to become engrossed with something new,school,gf,hobby,etc. Balancing school and work can be tuff,good friends are hard to come by . Just let him do his thing. I think it's foolish to part ways if there a good friendship,just keep in contact and you two will find time to hang out sometime . He will learn soon enough that he may be missing out on opportunities. Bothering him about it can just cause resentment. Basically live and let live. It is important to schdeule free time,to clear our mind. I have a good friend who work a stressful job and going back for his masters. He sets aside time,even if it's just a saturday night every two weeks. This dude can be beyond busy with work and college,it's insane.
hellyegal Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 My "friend" is taking over my life........? This girl came to our school in 6th grade (were in 8th grade now) and shes just perfect...she gets all the stuff she wants, she takes hip hop, plays guitar, skateboards, is really pretty, EVERYONE likes her (boys and girls), she makes big deals of things that don't matter so she starts crying and everyone takes care of her, acts dumb to get guys, gets mad easily, she's allowed to do anything, She's a trendsetter, and one time she web cut herself cuz "life pissed her off"....guess what she got cuz of that? My crush as her bf....after realizing that the only thing left to me is art, she just so happens to be an amazing artist. I used to love to draw and now I just ant do it right....and guess what else? She stole my best friend. Ughhh I'm just so pissed and she's not talking to me anymore just to my bff and she's the one who told me she was annoying.....ugh Shea lowering my self esteem and I just can't think of myself as even "good" anymore....plz help...
Author Disillusioned Posted February 9, 2011 Author Posted February 9, 2011 Unfortunately my buddy has a tendency to keep stubbornly butting forward in anything he does, like he has blinders on, oblivious to things going wrong around him.
Distant78 Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 I mean c'mon give him a break. The dude is trying to get his education and is going through a nasty divorce. I had that same type of determination. It's what's made me successful. If that type of good attitude towards his education gets him good grades then so be it. Just be there by his side and support him. He'll come to you soon.
Questionis Posted February 22, 2011 Posted February 22, 2011 Er give him a break. I am having such issues with my friend who will not understand that I need to study. It drives me nuts!
todd54tacy Posted February 23, 2011 Posted February 23, 2011 this is the result of old fashion technique in education.
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