screwball Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 Today at work it was made obvious to me that I'm the type of person that likes to "aim high" and often push myself to the edge in order to be extremely productive both at work and at home. This often means that I can't mentally let myself just sit around and relax. Ever. I always need 100 things that need getting done in order to feel good about myself. And to that extent, I am somewhat relieved when I get a cold or even...(gasp) when I was coping from my breakup. I was relieved because it meant that I could be proud of myself for simply eating one meal or actually taking a shower, shaving, and brushing my teeth. I have to admit there was some comfort in knowing that I "could" sit around all day and watch movies. And still be proud of myself for accomplishing the little things. I "could" do that because I was entitled - I just suffered through a breakup and I was entitled to do nothing all day because of it. Does anyone else experience this "relief"? Do you think it can tend to make people mope around longer than necessary? I'm not going through this at all right now (it's been a LONG time since the b/u and I'm back to doing 100 things at once), but I have been wondering about it today and would like your opinions!
D78 Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 I've been really busy the past 10 years, it seems. Working full time while going to college, law school, then starting my own business... Then the break up... For the past two months I have been seriously slacking off. More than I have in my entire life. I don't think it makes people mope around more than necessary. I think you have a sense of what you need to get through this situation. You have to take the time to deal with it now, instead of having all these negative feelings come back later when you don't expect them (like when you meet another SO). Kicking yourself for taking this time is just going to add to the negativity. That being said, you also can't ignore it when it's time to get off your a$$ and start living life again. I broke my wrist the day after the break up. It was really hard to not use it too much, especially since I wanted to move my furniture to play like I was in a different house, but I knew I had to let my wrist heal. I don't see how a broken heart is much different. I think it's emotionally mature to admit that even though you are a grown up, sometimes you get knocked down so bad that you have to retreat and recover. You have to pat yourself on the back for every little step you take toward your new life, even if the step is just getting out of bed in the morning (or afternoon). That's my 2 cents.
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