joel Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 ok i met this K girl at holt renfrew. gave her my card and she texted me and we went out for coffee at Tim Hortons. i had to carry the conversation and try to make more conversation. After the 3 weeks i asked her to go ice skating with me on robson square(since its free) and she said busy. she messages me back via facebook with her so called advice with the the message shown below. ok how bout the time we first met ,and i had to wait for 20 minutes for you. you didnt see me complain. ah no. i tried to make the most out of it. and whats wrong with it being FREE unless shes a golddigger. whats next i have to pick her up in a SL . sheesh K girls . uhh `hey, I'm writing message to give you advice. you know? your behavior is strange. if you are interested in someone or if you wanna make some friends, you have to change your behavior. women like just small gentel or considerate actions. after we met, you should have sent message that is asking if i am safe. and before you suggest another meeting, you should have sent some texts. just ask about my normal life. but you had done nothing and then you suggested meeting. it's so strange. it sounds that you wanna meet me only whenever you're bored. the worst thing you did is 'the fee is free for you.' it hurt women's confidence. never say that. if you wanna pay for me, just pay at the time. probably women expect that. Learn about women more. Learn about manner more. I know you're not a bad man. you just don't know well. I hope my advice works for you.``
SmileFace Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 Ha, people have some nerve. Were you guys friends or anything before the date?
D-Lish Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 She sounds like a princess. You're not even dating and she's already nagging you.
Leigh 87 Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 Her advice is nto that bad, however, it was not appropriate advice for her to give out to you - because you never gave her any signs that u two were an item = it sounds like u were just playing it cool and seeingdid how you guys got along. it is socially aberrant to expect you to act in a specific way at this point in your relationship! She has not done anything weird though; she simply saw the situation between you to in a different way that you saw things; she espected more from you, where as you were just acting casual, because that is how you percieved things to me. Be careful about calling people weird, especially girls - I have fallen unde the weird catagory before a FEW times, and it was simply because I do not know any better; I do now.
Author joel Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 nope not friends at all before the date
OldSkool Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 Google: gongju byung It's a Korean phrase, she'll know exactly what it means. LOL
xpaperxcutx Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 Google: gongju byung It's a Korean phrase, she'll know exactly what it means. LOL Lol even if she has Princess Syndrome doesn't mean she's wrong in this matter. The OP shouldn't have said the date was free. Imagine me asking a guy out to eat and saying " hey it's free, I have coupons!":lmao:
Lucky_One Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 Hey - she met you in Holt Renfrew! It wasn't like you picked her up at a Dollar Store! Regardless, she isn't entirely wrong. It does seem a bit tacky to ask someone to go on a date, and then mention in the invitation that it is free. There is NOTHING wrong with free activities - they are great! But no one really likes to feel that they are only asked out IF the activity is free. So, lesson learned! Move on!
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 `hey, I'm writing message to give you advice. you know? your behavior is strange. if you are interested in someone or if you wanna make some friends, you have to change your behavior. women like just small gentel or considerate actions. after we met, you should have sent message that is asking if i am safe. and before you suggest another meeting, you should have sent some texts. just ask about my normal life. but you had done nothing and then you suggested meeting. it's so strange. it sounds that you wanna meet me only whenever you're bored. the worst thing you did is 'the fee is free for you.' it hurt women's confidence. never say that. if you wanna pay for me, just pay at the time. probably women expect that. Learn about women more. Learn about manner more. I know you're not a bad man. you just don't know well. I hope my advice works for you.`` I like this. She clearly isn't trying to be mean... this shows why she isn't interested anymore. I wish women who had rejected me were honest like this... it would have helped me grow faster as a kid. Instead most either flaked or lied to me. Just take it for what it is. Well intentioned advice. Most of this stuff she is correct about anyway.
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