SDA Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 Here are my previous threads about my situation and I just wanted to vent because I haven't talk to her, her friends, or anyone about how I have been handling what happened and what's going on. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t258250/ Towards the end of my college break I received plenty of texts saying all different things and how she felt from her. One day she wants me the next she doesn't. It's been 2 weeks of NC since the last time we spoke and I do feel much better. I still think about her everyday and everything and I get points at the day where I get down but only for a second. I do want to be with her but I have reflected over the relationship and even before the relationship and noticed some red flags but I have reflected over those too. I feel as if everyday I don't talk to her she gets further away I'm not sure how I feel about that. It's weird not talking to her all day and I barley have my phone on me when I walk around campus to go eat or go to class it's only in my room or when I go out on the weekends. I have no desire to contact her. I'm a little worried about her birthday in a few weeks, I don't know how I would approach that because she would be upset if I didn't say anything, but then again she broke up with me, right? I feel lonely at times but I have my eye on a few girls at school. Not looking for a relationship at any source and I don't think these girls are worthy enough on them it's just been nice to get out there and not have that gut feeling all day everyday. Time is great, NC really does let you think about everything, and I wonder if she thinks about me sometimes. I'm optimistic about getting better only good can come out of my future. I take it day by day and go with the flow.
0hpenelope Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 I have no desire to contact her. I'm a little worried about her birthday in a few weeks, I don't know how I would approach that because she would be upset if I didn't say anything, but then again she broke up with me, right? That's all you need to have, right there. There's no reason to break NC for the sake of a birthday greeting. She'd be upset sure, but that problem's on her and not you. Got it? I really like that you're on the right track. Keep going!
Author SDA Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 Thank you. I am on the right track and I know it. I miss her and all but if I'm not enough for her than she isn't for me.
Author SDA Posted February 1, 2011 Author Posted February 1, 2011 She texted last night after 2 weeks of NC...I answered after 2 hours since I was at a hockey game. We talked about nothing for awhile, she was kinda flirty, it was like how we used to talk, and it wasn't awkward. When I said I was going to bed I just said "goodnight, long day" She said "Goodnight, nice to talk to you again" I said "Haha yeah you too. Talk to you soon" She replied "Alright goodnight" Now do I go back NC and wait for her again? I'll admit talking to her set me back a little bit and got me thinking and all. I don't know where to go from here.
0hpenelope Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 At this point bro, I really think she should be "chasing" you. Do not initiate anything. She was the one who wanted the break and whether or not you want to keep talking to her, that's your call. If you're not 100% ok and yet you can handle contact from her, then you'll keep getting set back and if you start having expectations from your LC, that setback will hurt much worse than if you had just grit your teeth and pushed through with initial NC. I understand that reconciliations (if it's what you want) will involve eventual LC, but it's about timing too. I really hope you pick the route that's best for you. Good luck and don't get hurt.
Author SDA Posted February 1, 2011 Author Posted February 1, 2011 At this point bro, I really think she should be "chasing" you. Do not initiate anything. She was the one who wanted the break and whether or not you want to keep talking to her, that's your call. If you're not 100% ok and yet you can handle contact from her, then you'll keep getting set back and if you start having expectations from your LC, that setback will hurt much worse than if you had just grit your teeth and pushed through with initial NC. I understand that reconciliations (if it's what you want) will involve eventual LC, but it's about timing too. I really hope you pick the route that's best for you. Good luck and don't get hurt. I wasn't going to contact her again I understand, thanks for your advice. I'll keep sitting back and post the next time she contacts.
Author SDA Posted February 2, 2011 Author Posted February 2, 2011 Just to vent a bit. Thinking over our conversation, I'm a little depressed today, not much about her just about how my life is going right now. I'm very confused and unsure about things right now and I'm uncomfortable the way my life has been these past few months. At the end of my conversation with her it seemed like she wanted me to say something to her like a reassurance or something but I didn't give it to her just said "goodnight". I am supposed to be doing that right? I have been thinking about contacting her but I won't. I won't allow myself to be that weak. I feel like the lines of communication are open but I will not take that initiative.
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