irc333 Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 This woman I met, she just moved into my area....put an ad up, she has a good amount of pictures, and a lengthy profile describing what she was looking for in a guy, stated taht she was looking for a long term relationship. She stated that she is looking for a friend, and not a romantic relationship. I decided to reply, "I'm confused, you stated in your ad that you're looking to 'date', and that you're looking for a long term relationship, and you write your profile as such....so I'm not sure I understand, could you please clarify?" And she stated that there was nothing "confusing" about this at all. That she stated in her profile she wasn't looking for a long term romantic relationship (she's lying, she did put she was looking for a relationship), and she put "dating" because she thought it would be nice to meet someone to spend some time with, but....would not be against it if something romantic were to occur. Women-speak, how funny. "She wouldn't be against it if something romantic were to occur" I like the way that's phrased, "She would not be against it" Who talks like that? LOL Wouldn't a normal person say, "If something romantic were to happen, it would be NICE"...so it sounds normal saying it that way. OR , even better, the normal way to say it would be, "If something romantic were to occur, I would be FOR it!" That sounds like it makes more sense, right? That's like saying, "If I were to win a new car or the lottery, I would not be against it" Hm, I wonder what would happen if you ended everything with, "......I would not be against it" "If had the opportunity to take on a new job opportunity, I would not be against it." sorry, to go on a tangent, but I think this takes on a tangent itself. She then said, "I don't think we're on the same page here, and that we're looking for different things, good luck in your search" And I responded that...well...that I think we are on the same page, because, I wouldn't be against something romantic happening either. So....that was kind of a wierd response, and quite odd for her to say that there were nothing confusing about it, when it was entirely contradictory and confusing. Wouldn't you say?
Star Gazer Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 That sounds like it makes more sense, right? Not to most people. Wouldn't you say? Nope.
Author irc333 Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 Please elaborate on your "Nope" lol Not to most people. Nope.
Eddie Edirol Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 What shes saying is she isnt over her ex yet and she wants some rebound sex before getting into anything serious. But if the guy of her dreams comes around, she wouldnt be against considering something serious with HIM. She didnt like what she saw in you, so nothing you say would have worked anyway. She keeps her profile vague to avoid turing off guys who want a relationship, or guys that just want to fool around.
Star Gazer Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 Please elaborate on your "Nope" lol "I disagree."
Author irc333 Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 When did I say anything about an ex? What shes saying is she isnt over her ex yet and she wants some rebound sex before getting into anything serious. But if the guy of her dreams comes around, she wouldnt be against considering something serious with HIM. She didnt like what she saw in you, so nothing you say would have worked anyway. She keeps her profile vague to avoid turing off guys who want a relationship, or guys that just want to fool around.
Eddie Edirol Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 When did I say anything about an ex? You think she'd tell you EVERYTHING about her?
Author irc333 Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 She just moved into the area a week ago, that's not possible. If she had an ex, he's a 1,000 miles away. lol You think she'd tell you EVERYTHING about her?
florence of suburbia Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 Are you just extremely literal-minded? She wants to meet some guys for friendship or maybe more if it seems natural. "I wouldn't be opposed to it," is a playful way of saying "it might be cool, let's wait and see how things unfold."
D-Lish Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 Her profile doesn't sound confusing to me. She's basically saying she's looking to meet people and if she makes a connection, great- if it happens, it happens. Would you rather her profile reeked of urgency and desperation?
florence of suburbia Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 But what he wrote her is playful right? "I'm confused, you stated in your ad that you're looking to 'date', and that you're looking for a long term relationship, and you write your profile as such....so I'm not sure I understand, could you please clarify?" I think the "could you please clarify" especially ends it romanticly. Oh, absolutely. Kind of like a "if Mr. Spock was a Tax Attorney" kind of romance.
Star Gazer Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 But what he wrote her is playful right? No, not at all. Her profile was perfectly clear to me, I understood what she meant perfectly fine. To be asked, well... if I were her, I'd find the question really odd. I think the "could you please clarify" especially ends it romanticly. Um, not really. Actually, not at all.
Eddie Edirol Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 She just moved into the area a week ago, that's not possible. If she had an ex, he's a 1,000 miles away. lol Doesnt mean shes over the ex, just means shes AWAY from him, and maybe moved BECAUSE of him. People do that you know.
jelissa Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 Okay, well the important thing is that you know she would not be against it if anything romantic were to occur. If you feel the same way, then as nightsky said "go with the flow" and go for it. Just like I posted in one of your other threads, you never know what will happen. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right?
Author irc333 Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 Actually, her profile sounded just like any other profile I've read, your garden variety profile. When she responded, her email contracted what she said in her profile. Her profile doesn't sound confusing to me. She's basically saying she's looking to meet people and if she makes a connection, great- if it happens, it happens. Would you rather her profile reeked of urgency and desperation?
Feelin Frisky Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 You said you were confused and she said her ad wasn't confusing? That would be enough for me to write her off. If you told her her ad was confusing or that she was confusing then maybe I could see the defense mechanism.
D-Lish Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 Actually, her profile sounded just like any other profile I've read, your garden variety profile. When she responded, her email contracted what she said in her profile. Why didn't you just say hello and introduce yourself in your original message instead of provoking drama? She's obviously approaching dating in a low pressure manner- she's just looking to date and see where things go without expectations. Why is that a puzzle to you?
fishtaco Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 When you read a profile like that, you should ignore it. If you like the picture, send her a msg. If not, ignore. Starting a discussion like this kills any romantic possibilities right away. My favorite profiles are the one that list "laughing" as one of the things they like to do. I suppose I should list not dying as my interests as well. But, what the heck are you doing online anyway? Online dating sucks for men. You should go out and meet women in real life. Online dating should be used at most, as a supplement. I've stopped a long time ago. And I always multi date, unless I'm close to a serious relationship. If a nobody like me can manage to date multiple women at the same time without using online dating sites, anyone can.
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