love condemned Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 my boyfriend of a year was in a relationship for 8 yrs, married for 1.5 of those years and she ended it in divorce, as visa was authorized. they were split for 2 years before me with a on/off gf inbetween who as the drunk crazy girl he went to after the long term relationship he is texting the ex wife, he did before, typically bitching out to her, but now he is txting saying how he misses their life, xx on the end of txts and all the loving caring stuff im sure she wudv wanted during the marriage. i am currently studying as well as working, 3 months of stress and i feel let down, since i have been there for him in ways no1 has ever before- he said this to me so what do i do, i cant confront him on the texts as i sudnt have read his messages, but i have been hurt before in a 3.5 yr relationship due to cheating, i seen he was txting her right beside me and he has bn distant so i cudnt beat the eurge to grab a look, to protect myself. i feel he is emotionally cheating on me and only for the ex wifes lack of desire to rekindle- has him not with her, i feel if that relationship was not lingering we would be ok, second best maybe at this moment of time but that is because he is looking at the past relationship with this rose tinted glasses approach rather than what it is he says he loves me, cares for me, but a little stress or even gud stuff in his life has him txting her, what do i do- i dont want to leav him as i believe this is something that can be sorted, possible therapy, but right now all that is happening is that i am being hurt and cant say anything he is currently living with me temporary, and i hope he is not just usin me as a stop gap, i suggested we move in together due to current roommate issues but he is worried if we fight what will happen- he had to leave the apt he shared with the ex scarred by his history is hurting us, but how do i approach him without stating i invaded his privacy LD
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