aimeeg Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 So let me start out saying I am 17 years old. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. I love him and he's honestly the best guy in the world. But lately we've fought a lot, we've just had a lot of little problems that we argue about and sometimes I feel like there's nothing more we can do to save the relationship.. And I don't know, it isn't your ordinary high school relationship. I think he's the one, I really do. I also lost my virginity to him. What can I do to help save the relationship? I really need some positive reinforcements.
Nexus One Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 So let me start out saying I am 17 years old. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. I love him and he's honestly the best guy in the world. But lately we've fought a lot, we've just had a lot of little problems that we argue about and sometimes I feel like there's nothing more we can do to save the relationship.. And I don't know, it isn't your ordinary high school relationship. I think he's the one, I really do. I also lost my virginity to him. What can I do to help save the relationship? I really need some positive reinforcements. The arguments must stop. The negativity must stop. There should be no nagging. There must be clear communication in order to prevent miscommunication. If the issues are small like you say, then it seems like those things should be possible. But it's hard to say without knowing exactly how small those issues are and what is at the root of the arguments.
Karma20 Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Talk to him about it, if you really love him then give it all you got. You might regret if you walk away knowing you didn't do everything you could. Maybe take a little space from each other. Don't give up yet
SincereOnlineGuy Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 So let me start out saying I am 17 years old. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. I love him and he's honestly the best guy in the world. But lately we've fought a lot, we've just had a lot of little problems that we argue about and sometimes I feel like there's nothing more we can do to save the relationship.. And I don't know, it isn't your ordinary high school relationship. I think he's the one, I really do. I also lost my virginity to him. What can I do to help save the relationship? I really need some positive reinforcements. I wish we could take your hand and ask you to step "over here" to somehow be able to see your post and your life as others (and you, later) will see it. I love how honest and sincere you are about wanting to pull out all stops to find a way to make your relationship thrive, and I know how doubly important it must be to give yourself a chance for a lifetime spent with your first sex partner. I also understand that it doesn't seeeeeeeeeeeeem like "your ordinary high school relationship" (because it feels so intense and mature and all)... ... but I'm not sure what you have to compare it to (from up-close and personal, I mean) Sure there are two people from your classes who have been together for ages, and you hear this, and you hear that, but you can't reeeeeeeeally be with them when they are 'alone' together, so you can't get the full sense of it. Not only that, but just your age and place in life says that a whole lot is going ON in your worlds, and those normal, natural, and scheduled things are adding further strain as they would for most any young couple. It really is great that you are concentrating and CARING so much about making your relationship thrive, and while I don't have any great surefire answers for saving it, I want you to be able to "reach" to this response if you soon need the reminder that so many high school relationships are bound to have a tough go of it because of how much each individual learns about him/her self during the process. Remember when your relative said to you: "you're too young to know anything about love" ??? Well he/she really meant: "you are too young to know enough about yourSELF to give yourself the best chance to thrive in a loving relationship" You are already the world's foremost expert on yourself, yet you're still learning more and more... and some of the challenges result from just not having enough examples of other guys, and how they would relate to you, to more fully understand and appreciate how your current boyfriend relates to you. I hope this helps...
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