Damien Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Hello again to you all, I remember coming here a few months back but I can't find the post anymore, gah! Okay, so my Ex dumped me back in September and jumped into a relationship with a guy she was friends with for 10 years. I think a lot of us here know how that feels so I'll spare you with that. What amazes me is that she discarded a 3-year relationship with no last words or goodbye and jumps into another after 2 weeks! In these past months I've been really fixing myself, I'm back into shape again - I go out a lot more with friends and I've had a part time job now. But sadly, for some strange reason I waited for my ex to contact me / wish me a Happy Birthday on the 13th (Yes, I know how stupid that sounds but I couldn't stop myself at all). The day arrived, not a nudge on MSN nor a text at all - as expected, duh. But here's the weird part, ever since then she's been stuck in my head all over again - I was fine before! I've now become some sort of a puppy longing for a shred of info on what she's up to. I fear I'm also heading down a dark path as I'm having thoughts of revenge. Please don't judge me badly, I'm just being honest and open right now, thanks for reading.
LK30 Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Hey Damien, I can certainly relate to what you say. It's odd that she's seeing a guy she's been friends with for 10 years as people often say you shouldn't be friends too long as it then never turns into a proper relationship. There's no guarantee it'll work out. It's good you've sorted yourself out, and when bumped into my ex's best mate in the summer and told her about my Grandad passing away the week before I expected her to tell my ex and possibly me get a message from her saying the usual 'I'm sorry etc,' but I got nothing. I think if she had texted you or e-mailed or msn'd then you wouldv'e started speculating all sorts of things. Does she miss me? Does she want to get back together? Should I contact her back? And so on. So in fact, a message from her may have made it worse, and even though you might've felt better it would only have been a short term lift for you. You know what, I think girls are just better at moving on than us blokes. And the fact she's moved on so quick means the new guy in her life is likely masking some of the feelings she would've experienced had she not got with him. Whatever you do, don't take her back and don't let her believe that you ever will!
Author Damien Posted January 25, 2011 Author Posted January 25, 2011 Thanks for the reply LK30, that actually made me feel a lot better! I've gotta agree withya though, I've been friends with a girl for around..17 years now, almost all my life! And we never see each other as anything more than just friends. You make a great point as well, now that I think about it if she had contacted me on my birthday I'd probably be feeling quite a lot worse. Oh and the thought of me taking her back hasn't crossed my mind at all so need to worry about that .
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