matt1234 Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Hello, I want to stay friends with my ex-wife. I know she wants to stay friends. We divorced because I wanted kids (my own OR adopt) and she did not ever want to be a parent. We have been separated for 2 and a half years. Now, she's in a relationship and I am recently re-married to a wonderful woman. My current wife is also divorced and she has had no contact whatsoever with her ex since the day he left her 4 years ago. He crushed her and it has been a long, hard recovery for her. She doesn't know where he is or anything about his life. She doesn't ever want him back, but she is upset that she knows nothing about him, but I know lots about my ex and what she is doing. We both still "care" about our exes and hope that they can find happiness, despite of what they did to us. My question is, should I be friends with my ex-wife or would that be hurtful to my current wife because she can't be friends with her ex? I want to put my wife first and not upset her. Should I just let go of my ex, even though I still care about her as a friend? I have absolutely no intention of an emotional relationship with her. I'm very, very happily remarried.
Jdw_Icequeen Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 This is really the best advice I can give you.. Talk to your wife and ask her, everyone is diffrent.
Leandro Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Talk to your wife and ask her, everyone is diffrent. I agree. Talk to her.
Author matt1234 Posted January 25, 2011 Author Posted January 25, 2011 I have talked to her and she is mostly understanding. I guess I'm just wondering if it's all worth it. Is it really worth stirring the pot? I know it will create some grief for my wife and I don't know if it would be easier to just drop it. I don't know what's healthy for me either. I know I will feel guilty for no longer being friends with my ex, (aka, deleting her on facebook), however, I know I will also feel guilty for being her friend, when I have a new loving wife. decisions...
Leandro Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Well I would put my wife before my ex. If it hurt her in anyway for me to be friends with my ex, I wouldn't think twice about it. That's just me. It's up to you.
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