Avaa Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Bottom line:He KNOWS I like him from the way I behave. I am not sexual around him or talk dirty. He's actually liked me for a good 7 months. So we were teasing(not sexually) each other because we felt like pushing each others buttons. This was done by us poking fun at each other so no harm here. Then he asked for a hug and complained it wasn't intimate. Anyways, as we were leaving he made a perverted joke that he was going to tell my aunt(whom he knows)that I touched a guys private spot. He then asked me how many have I touched? to which he said none. I became annoyed and he said I was being uptight and he was just joking. He then started talking about his date that he was going to see after he dropped me off(again, very rude). Last time I checked he liked me. Now I am beginning to think we're in friend zone and he's ONLY physically attracted to me. Guys, why is being like this because he never acted this way before. I understand he's pushing my buttons but WHY? what's the need? Don't men have boundaries?
iJester Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 How do you know he like(d) you and did you show him that you liked him back? This might be his way of showing that he's not interested in you anymore.
Author Avaa Posted January 25, 2011 Author Posted January 25, 2011 How do you know he like(d) you and did you show him that you liked him back? This might be his way of showing that he's not interested in you anymore. He showed it through his actions..the way he spoke to me..I did show him I liked him, sometimes. I told him once I didn't like him(had a good reason) but it wasn't in a serious way. Anyways, after he explained his actions I forgave him. After that happened(in December), is when he started saying things like what I just posted. What do you mean it's his way of not showing me any interest when he flirts and asks for hugs?
iJester Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Maybe he's trying to make you jealous because he still likes you, or maybe he's trying to make you jealous by showing you that he doesn't like you anymore, or it is his way of trying to get over liking you. I don't know because I'm not him. If I were to do something like that, it would be my getting over her because I would be deliberately trying to hurt her and distancing myself in the process. It's my way of rescinding my previous affections; I'm trying to hurt your feelings, which I previously cared about and it's a good way to put distance between you. If I don't want to like someone anymore, I'll slight/hurt them so they'll put up a wall and not be so nice to me either, and getting over them is easier. I cannot speak to what's going on in his head, all I can tell you is why I would behave in a similar manner.
Author Avaa Posted January 25, 2011 Author Posted January 25, 2011 I feel annoyed because he knows I like him. I feel like it isn't in my hands whereas I was the one who could take it to the next level, etc., it's really a slap in the face sitting next to someone who knows you like him go from being a gentlemen to the exact opposite. It could be him trying to show a sign of dis-interest, but if he really was uninterested then he could stop with the flirting.
iJester Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 How are you so certain he knows you like him? Have you directly told him that you like him and are interested in dating? Everything you've told me suggests that you have not. In fact, you even said you told him that you didn't like him. From what you've described you've been extremely ambiguous to the point he probably feels like you're playing with him.
Author Avaa Posted January 25, 2011 Author Posted January 25, 2011 No, I haven't told him straight up but he's told me twice he thinks I like him. He even took it a step further and said "you probably would want to be with me." This was actually recent.
iJester Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Well of course he's confused. He put himself out there and probably feels rejected since you didn't say you like him back. Then he did it again, and got rejected again. Be up front and just tell him you like him. He's totally justified in his treatment of you, and you haven't been a very good friend at all. Tell him how you feel, or leave him alone, but don't expect him to risk rejection a third time.
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