fwang Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Is it normal？ Yesterday, he invited me to have the dinner at his place. We ate and then watched a movie together. During the movie, there was a little physcial contact. He either played with my hair or put one of his hands on my shoulder while watching the movie. After the movie, it's 10:30 pm. So I decided to leave. He walked me to my car and we hugged each other. Then I drove and left. This is the 3rd date and there is still no kiss. Is it becuase he has low interests or just respects me? Should I take the step?
oaks Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 During the movie, there was a little physcial contact. He either played with my hair or put one of his hands on my shoulder while watching the movie. How did you respond to this? Did you reach out and touch him in return? or just sit there? or what?
bayouboi Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Some guys have to be hit over the head with a phone book. Try that and see if it works.
GivenUp0083 Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Is it normal？ What's normal? Yesterday, he invited me to have the dinner at his place. We ate and then watched a movie together. During the movie, there was a little physcial contact. He either played with my hair or put one of his hands on my shoulder while watching the movie. Agree with others, need more info about your reaction, what did YOU do to show you were interested besides letting him touch you. After the movie, it's 10:30 pm. So I decided to leave. He walked me to my car and we hugged each other. Then I drove and left. Did you say anything? Like 'hey I had a nice night'? This is the 3rd date and there is still no kiss. Is it becuase he has low interests or just respects me? There could be many reasons. I'm guessing you're not giving him any signals for the green light. Try showing him some indicators that you want to be kissed. Why don't YOU try kissing HIM? Should I take the step? See if that helps.
lovelylove Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 I went out on five dates with a guy who never kissed me, only held my hand on the last date and by then it was like ewwwww. Lol. Found out later he had Aspergers syndrome. Nice guy, really smart, successful, but super socially awkward. Didn't work out.
Jonno_S Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Is it normal？ This is the 3rd date and there is still no kiss. Is it becuase he has low interests or just respects me? Could be either or anything. Keep in mind that you could come up with one thousand possible explanations and there may still be one more. Don't box him or yourself in.
Author fwang Posted January 25, 2011 Author Posted January 25, 2011 How did you respond to this? Did you reach out and touch him in return? or just sit there? or what? I remembered that I played with his fingers a little bit while holding his hands. When he softly touched my hair, I didn't do anything.
Author fwang Posted January 25, 2011 Author Posted January 25, 2011 I went out on five dates with a guy who never kissed me, only held my hand on the last date and by then it was like ewwwww. Lol. Found out later he had Aspergers syndrome. Nice guy, really smart, successful, but super socially awkward. Didn't work out. He is a kind of reserved guy. Nice, smart and aslo successful. But the thing is, he used to try on-line dating back in 2008. During that year, he went out with more than 20 girls. How can he be shy and social-awkward？？！！
ConflictedGuy27 Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 hand holding, yet no kissing... that's a bit strange. if you like him, give him time; otherwise, you either walk or make a move yourself. good luck.
tigressA Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 On your next date, try making some moves yourself. Touch his arm, take his hand, tousle his hair. Lean in close when talking to him. Give him that flirty, sorta-shy, "I want you to kiss me now" look. Or tell him, "I was thinking of what it would be like to kiss you." That last one works every time...for me, at least. Good luck!
Sivok Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 He is a kind of reserved guy. Nice, smart and aslo successful. But the thing is, he used to try on-line dating back in 2008. During that year, he went out with more than 20 girls. How can he be shy and social-awkward？？！！It's easy getting dates through online dating. However, one factor you're forgetting is quantity does not mandate quality. Infact, in dating it's quite the opposite imo - they may have been 20 first dates. bayouboi's comment made me chuckle, but he has it right. This guy is reserved you said, so he probably has a tough time taking the initiative. Either take the move yourself, or maybe have a drink or two with him to loosen him up.
Author fwang Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 Just wanna update something on this. So today, I took one of my male friends advise to initiate a lunch date with him. I typed on Gtalk, "Are you interested in meeting up for lunch tomorrow? Just let me know if you are. :)" He answered, "Hey, just saw your message. i was out to lunch with a friend. Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday lunch hour is when i try to get to the gym, so I wouldn't be able to meet up for lunch tomorrow unfortunately." Then I said "Oh, np", and he never responded. He is not interested in me, I got it. I do like him a lot but I know it's time for me to move on.
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