trampled Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Long time lurker and reader here; I've found a lot of good advice on these forums Here's my story: I'm in my late 20s and have never had a relationship before. 2 years ago, I got to know this girl very well and fell very hard for her. She had a LD boyfriend at the time and strung me along - and it was my mistake to allow myself to be strung along. I must clarify that I live in a different city from her so our friendship/relationship was LD as well. This went on for some months and we grew closer and more intimate - to a point where I fully expected her to break up with her boyfriend. She didnt though, and started lying to me about her travels (to visit him). She was continuing to come on to me and hit on me and when I ultimately found out the truth about her lies, I decided to go NC and did not explain myself to her. She continued sending me flirty messages that I ignored and soon after she got engaged to her boyfriend. I didnt know about this and instead of telling me when she had the chance to, she left a gift for me with a mutual friend when I visited her city. News of her engagement was a shock to me but not completely unexpected. I went complete NC after this and its been a hard 9 months since. I never asked the reason behind her actions and why she lied to me and some people have advised me to talk to her so that I get closure. I do not believe that talking will help. I am still single and there are some lovely women that I know who have indicated their interest in me. I do not want to start dating because I believe that will be unfair to the girl that I go out with until I am completely healed... However, I am still hurting and its just as painful today as it was when I began NC. What should I do? Talk to her or continue NC or get together with someone else? Thanks for reading, Trampled
swfc_77 Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 I am still single and there are some lovely women that I know who have indicated their interest in me. I do not want to start dating because I believe that will be unfair to the girl that I go out with until I am completely healed.. good man, thats all you need to do. im the same at the minute, i just cannot be arsed with chasing women at the minute and its because i have still got a very small amount of.... something for my ex, not love though. * she is a liar * she is a cheat *she is a liar you dont need people like that mate, keep busy and active and time will sort you out. i would be half tempted to call the fiance, tell him what you know. but you gain nothing from it so just best to leave it be.
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