ames Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 (edited) Hi everyone, hope your all doing well given the unfortunate circumstances as to why were all here A few weeks ago, i posted a thread on here about a small argument that i had had with a guy that i liked. I'll give you the quick rundown... We met just over a month ago (yes, so soon..i know..i know..) We were getting along like a house on fire-everything felt fantastic..we were going out to dinners, watching dvds, going to the beach..all the fun things that ppl do when theyre happy.. So, anyway...we had a small disagreement (yes..so soon) and it made me feel insecure...we fought about it again the next morning and then he told me he thought we needed (the dreaded word) s-p-a-c-e...ARRRG...So, as unhappy as i was about it, thats exactly what i did. About 10 days ago, i told him that i wasn't happy about the whole space thing...not so much the "space", but we used to talk and text each other everyday-all day...so it went from that...to..this....so, he said that he thought we should stop seeing each other. I deleted his his number and didnt contact him for a week. I messaged him on facebook a quick "hey how are you? Hope your doing well" and he replied straight away. The next night, he started texting me and it was as if we hadn't fought at all..we were just talking about normal things..then he rang me and told me that he missed me, wished it (whatever it was) didn't end the way it did..etc..we spoke for about 2 hours. He sms'd me the minute i hung up the phone and all day the next day (yesterday). We met late yesterday afternoon and went for a nice walk and drive...i went back to his house and we made dinner together..it felt a little 'odd", i guess because of everything that had happened, but lets just say i stayed over his house........ This morning felt normal all over again-the hugs, kisses goodbye..etc So, stupid me..thinking everything would feel the same and be the same was wrong..i'm so stupid! I look into things so much..i feel like such a pathetic loser being on here for blurting out my "so called problems" when there are ppl on here who are going through thing that are much more problematic.. Anyway, basically..the texts from him today were quite straight to the point..he is going away tomorrow morning and so i wont be seeing him till next week...-yet tonight, he is at home doing nothing...it's making me feel all stupidly insecure again...if he invited me over tonight, i'd go straight over..so why is he still wanting "space" (he hasnt said it but thats the feeling that im getting)...shouldnt it be all exciting again?! ARRRG...shouldn't he be wanting to see me tonight seeing as we won't be seeing each other till next?? Plus we had over 10 days break.. ARRRG sorry for sounding like a whiney little brat..i just feel used and pathetic (Im 24 he is 27) Edited January 25, 2011 by ames
KTB3LL Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 I am close to your age and I look deep into every situation as well. I would say if I were you maybe keep talking to him some since he does make you happy but don't always make yourself available to him. Maybe talk to other people as well or hang out with other people. I would definately say don't "stay over" anymore. You don't want to end up being used. Since he told you he wanted a break and when he texted or called you came running he thinks he has you whenever he wants and only when he wants. He kinda showed that by not seeing you the night before he left. I would say keep talking to him if you really like him but not as much. Maybe talk to him every other day or only when he txts or calls first. Dont seem so eager. Maybe if he asks you to do something "be busy" and suggest a different time or day so he isn't in total control of everything. If guys call or text and want to hang out only at night it's been my experience they are only after one thing. Keep in touch with him but make him work for it a little to. If he isn't willing to work then he isn't worth your time. Just an opinion!!!
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