ech Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Been dating im for 2 years, he said I was the "one" he wanted to marry ect...So a friend was showing me her husband on a dating site (long story) and I decided to type in his zip code just to see, and BOOM there he was. Said he was looking for that "special woman" to share his life with. My heart dropped. It said he was online. I called him, it was 3am. I said what are you doing. "sleeping" Bull**** dont lie to me ect....I told him he broke my heart and hung up. WHY would he say all that to me and then do that? I just don't understand. I am lost.
Eeyore79 Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 I'm really sorry to hear what happened He obviously doesn't love you and is still looking for someone else, maybe even hooking up with women from the dating site. Whatever you might have thought, whatever he might have said, you're not "the one" for him. My advice is to dump him, and get STD tests because he's an untrustworthy man and might have been cheating.
bluebirdsfly Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Honey, if you two have been dating for 2 years, then he's definitely not into you and he's actively looking for someone who's more compatible, which doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. It just means that you are not really his type. Or worse, he's not looking for "someone special". He's just the kind of person who wanders around. But yes, STD test is highly recommended. Hugs for you. I know how much it hurts.
Billy_Boy Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Been dating im for 2 years, he said I was the "one" he wanted to marry ect...So a friend was showing me her husband on a dating site (long story) and I decided to type in his zip code just to see, and BOOM there he was. Said he was looking for that "special woman" to share his life with. My heart dropped. It said he was online. I called him, it was 3am. I said what are you doing. "sleeping" Bull**** dont lie to me ect....I told him he broke my heart and hung up. WHY would he say all that to me and then do that? I just don't understand. I am lost. I can empathize with your plight, my ex gf did the same story to me. We had been dating 5 years at the time and I dont know what it was but I decided to tap her email address into google, I do that sometimes, with mine, my brothers, people I know, see what kind of stuff pops up, not that I am lookin for dirt, just you never know what you can see. And bingo, she had some profile on match.com looking to meet guys. I called her and broke up with her immediately, told her she was human waste and I never wanted to see her again and lose my number. That I would be by to pick up my stuff that saturday so please have it packed and waiting. Few days later she came over crying and begging for forgiveness, ultimately I gave in and gave her another shot, I dont think she ever cheated on me physically, but it was never the same again and I was beginning to check out of the relationship emotionally. We lasted another few years, but there was no flavor left in the relationship until I eventually told her she was no longer a priority to me. And we split up.
Kansas Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Your ex is a douche bag. I found my ex's dating site too ... They tell you everything you think you want to hear, how you're so special, and he can't believe the connection he has with you, blah, blah, blah and then - boom, you see his profile - looking for that "special someone" and then he lists all the things that he's been telling you as the things that he's looking for. Yup. I just about threw up too. What made me more sick was that in his profile he actually used photos from one of our vacations together ... photos that I took. Once the trust is broken, its really hard to go back. All of a sudden you question everything they say and do and who they're really meeting and going out with. It's a really sad and anxiety ridden state to exist in. Stay strong.
Livelovelearn Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Leave him, its his loss. My ex boyfriend was first found on a dating site first year of our relationship, called him on it and he quickly took it down and apologized. Second year as we went through our ups and downs, he went back on it. And then we worked it out and he was off. Then couple months later he was back on it and he finally found the one person who he thought was "better" and he cheated. So just leave him, if you stay you wont end up happy. Leave him and the drama behind and move on to find a real man.
Author ech Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 Thank you everyone....I called him out on it, and he said he tried a site along time ago before he met me, and when I told him the site, he couldnt find himself on there today. He was gone. I asked if he deleted it, he said no. So it just "disapeared" And now I am the most important person to him blah blah blah. I was told that sometimes on those sites it will say you are online when you are not. So I want to believe him so badly but I just dont know.
ccnaboy2000 Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 Sweety you need to end it. Hes lying. My ex did the same thing, and so I created a fake profile, and started talking, and lo and behold, not only was she lying to me, but a lot of the stuff she told my fake profile was lies too!
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