DuskCrush Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Hey guys, I have a question--> about six months ago I dated a guy and it didn't work out because of drama and petty relationship stuff. He started seeing someone else and I felt jealous and insecure. We had plans but he canceled because of the other girl. We disconnected very abruptly. Lately I've been thinking of giving him a call and telling him I'm sorry for the stuff that happened. The truth is I'm still 40% interested in him but know that he doesn't want to date me anymore. I'm wondering --if I call him to say hi, tell him good luck with everything and that i was sorry would I look desperate and still interested in him?
PleasantDeviation Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Please don't call him. You will make yourself look like a fool. You don't need to apologize to him. He doesn't need your well wishes. Best thing is just to move on. If a man wants to talk to you or see you he will reach out to you. Don't set yourself up for disappointment.
Author DuskCrush Posted January 25, 2011 Author Posted January 25, 2011 gosh...I know you're right. By all accounts of logic, I shouldn't be calling him. But the relationship ended abruptly and I just need to kill all hope I think and really move on. Calling and apologizing is just a way to feel him out. If he does take the bait try to reunite, then I'll know for sure and won't have that 1% hope. But on the downside--i might feel sad and have to start the 'getting over it' all over again.
heartshaped Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Well it depends is he seeing anyone? If he's not seeing anyone, I would maybe send him a text or an email. I wouldn't call because that's a bit too personal for someone you haven't talked to for six months, but I would text just to feel him out a bit if you are interested and he isn't seeing anyone. If he's seeing someone then I'd just leave it be.
Author DuskCrush Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 what about calling and hanging up and seeing if he calls me back? I guess it he is interested--he'll call back. If not--I won't hear from him. Is that a good plan? I feel like at certain points in the past six months...I've been debating whether to call or not. I feel just ending the debate in my mind. ps--the only way to find out if he is seeing someone is to ask because right now I don't know.
Star Gazer Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 what about calling and hanging up and seeing if he calls me back? No, no, no! Horrible idea. Please don't do that.
Author DuskCrush Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 No, no, no! Horrible idea. Please don't do that. Why? Please explain it to me..I cant think for myself right now. I don't know why I'm feeling this way.
Star Gazer Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 Why? Please explain it to me..I cant think for myself right now. I don't know why I'm feeling this way. Calling him and hanging up to get his attention is a very transparent thing to do. It's also immature and a little psychologically unstable. Please don't do it. You'll only feel worse.
Maggotface Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 Hmm, I have a pretty good feeling that you're going to call him regardless of what any of us say. Calling him will seem desperate and hanging up will seem immature and remind him of all that fun drama you put him through.
Author DuskCrush Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 stargazer--yeah you're right it is transparent and immature. Thanks for reminding me of that ...lol. Maggot--no, I'm actually taking what everyone is saying to heart.
Author DuskCrush Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 bump--i'm starting to want to call him again. someone stop me please.
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