ideservebetter Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 (edited) Hello all, My ex broke up with me almost two months ago. We were in a 4 year relationship. He went on vacation back in November and when he came back he just wasn't the same. He was distant with me, I noticed it right away. We had our ups and downs throughout the relationship. He basically left me because I couldn't change. I would get mad at him over little things (according to him, he never did anything wrong) I really tried to change to the point of going to counseling. I had to stop because it got too expensive. I never denied that I had issues and I really did try to change but it's just so hard. I accepted him the way he was. Why couldn't he do the same? So he broke up with me two weeks after he came back from vacation. He basically told me this: It's not gonna work out He doesn't see a future with me He doesn't think I'm the one He never had that "connection with me" I didn't try hard enough He wasn't happy He gave it his all and he feels like he can't give anymore He met a girl over there and liked her He said he probably would've cheated on me Told me he had feelings for me but they weren't the feelings to marry me Told me he has never loved me Yet also told me he didn't know if he was making the biggest mistake of his life and if he wanted to get back he didn't expect me to take him back??? He actually cried and hugged me when he broke up with me?? He told me he wasn't going to stop talking to me that if I wanted to talk to call him. He told me that "what if there were better people out there for us" Said he was sorry for hurting me like this and that he wished me nothing but the best. He was sure I was going to find someone since I had all the qualities a man could want. He texted me the next day to see how I was doing of course I told me I was heart broken. I was devastated. I actually didn't beg the day he broke up with me but I did all the begging on the third day and he was just ruthless with me. Telling me that I was so mean to him, telling me that if he took be back he would probably cheat on me. That I was never ever to change. I told him to please think about it. He said he was confused and needed to clear his mind and that only time would tell????? The next day I realized I was only pushing him away so I texted him and told him that it was the best thing we could both do. I told him not to text me out of pity. So a month later he emails saying that he wants to talk to me to call him. (I changed my number but he knew I had a new number) Anyway, I called him don't know if this was a mistake? probably. So he asked me what I meant by it. I told him that he made it very clear that I wasn't the one and that he didn't want to be with me. And that if he was 100% sure that there was nothing I could do. He then asked me "how do you know when the person is the one"? WTF? he also said he wasn't 100% sure of his decision. He told me that sooner or later we're going to see each other cause of our mutual friends and that he didn't want me to be weird around him wtf? seriously? He told our friend that he felt like he wasn't making me happy and that he wanted to meet new people and not cheat on me. So it has been almost a month since I talked to him. I'm actually feeling better. I know I deserve better because I may have my issues (and I don't deny them) but I was a good girlfriend. I never cheated on him. I was loyal, faithful and just generally a good person. I just don't understand why he kept me for so long? I could've been with somebody who truly wanted me. I just want some advice. Preferably by men. He just told me so many things. He confused me with everything he told me. I'm trying really hard to move on some days are really hard but lately I've been feeling better. I'm actually surprised that I haven't initiated contact with him for most of the two months. Edited January 25, 2011 by ideservebetter
Author ideservebetter Posted January 25, 2011 Author Posted January 25, 2011 Forgot to ask, do you guys think this is the GIGS or did he simply just get bored and tired of me? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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