bsilmb Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 ok so there's this girl, we will call her Aimee. I've known Aimee since freshman year (last year) but we hardly talked. now this year, starting in august, I saw her in the library cuz we are both on newspaper. I asked her what she was up to then talked to her for about an hour. at the end I got her number and things looked good and then at some point in september we just stopped talking almost completely. recently in the past month or so we've been texting more frequently and talk a LITTLE in class. both me and my friend who has a class with her is under the impression she is iterested in me. she is always joking and stuff, but sometimes she just is flirty and says things that make me think she likes me. I offered for her to tag along with me and some friends today but she decided not to cuz she wouldve been the only girl and my friends don't know her, but she seemed happy for the offer. she gives me trouble for not talking to her more in class. we have. dance coming up on February 12. I was thinking I should ask her to that so that there's not too much implications of dating yet. but if things were to go well, I was gonna ask her out. so that's all background. yesterday, she asked me how I felt about her. I told her I kinda like her. she told me that she always screws things up and doesn't realize she likes a guy til it's too late. she said she wasn't sure if she liked me, but she likes talking to me. I then just got forward and asked if she's just letting me down easy. but she says "not at all. it is what is says" so basically I'm thinking it's my job to progress things further until she realizes she likes me. I'll ask her to the dance and start hanging or with her. I'll keep flirtiness up and kiss her. what do y'all think? she told me straight up when I asked if should text her that she enjoyed texting me. she's like a really playful person, she doesn't take much seriously. it's hard sometimes to get her to just be straight with me, but the trait is part of why I like her. I'm thinking that she basically put the ball in my court and wants me to progress things. the whole she's not sure if she likes me, i know she's being honest. if she really wanted to just let me know I didn't have a chance, she would. I just want to make the right moves from this point on so I can be more than friends with her. we are both young, 15, so keep that in mind when you respond. thanks so much in advance!
oaks Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 we are both young, 15, so keep that in mind when you respond. thanks so much in advance! At the end of December you said you were 16. Anyway, just ask her out on a date.
Author bsilmb Posted January 25, 2011 Author Posted January 25, 2011 At the end of December you said you were 16. Anyway, just ask her out on a date. yeah I am 16, but I said we were both 15 cuz I can't get my license til June, so it's easier than explaining it. I got my permit late so I'm stuck driving with a parent. it's just like being 15 pretty much haha. anyway, I think I will
Author bsilmb Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 yeah so it's like two and a half weeks til the dance and I'm not sure when to ask her. might not even have a ride, which would mean I'd be walking. I still really want to ask her, just not sure when. also, should I not text her everday even though she said she likes to talk to me? I don't want to come off desperate, but I dont want her to forget about me. and talking to her can be difficult due to the way class is that I have with her. there's really hit and miss opportunities to do it, but I'm TRYING. some days I might not even talk, then others we night spend half the hour just laughing and talking. it shouldn't be so damn complicated, I just want to see how a couple dates go, I don't want things to be dramatic. she's a really down to earth friendly girl so I know she won't be awkward if thugs don't workout. please tell me what to do, I always used to find a million reasons not to go for a girl, but I'd ignore the other million reasons to ask her out. thanks in advance:)
Author bsilmb Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 yeah so it's like two and a half weeks til the dance and I'm not sure when to ask her. might not even have a ride, which would mean I'd be walking. I still really want to ask her, just not sure when. also, should I not text her everday even though she said she likes to talk to me? I don't want to come off desperate, but I dont want her to forget about me. and talking to her can be difficult due to the way class is that I have with her. there's really hit and miss opportunities to do it, but I'm TRYING. some days I might not even talk, then others we night spend half the hour just laughing and talking. it shouldn't be so damn complicated, I just want to see how a couple dates go, I don't want things to be dramatic. she's a really down to earth friendly girl so I know she won't be awkward if thugs don't workout. please tell me what to do, I always used to find a million reasons not to go for a girl, but I'd ignore the other million reasons to ask her out. thanks in advance:) bump bump bump
oaks Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 also, should I not text her everday even though she said she likes to talk to me? I don't want to come off desperate, but I dont want her to forget about me. bump bump bump Well, you sound desperate. There aren't right or wrong answers to most of your questions. For example: some girls will love it if you text them every day and some will think you're a creep of the worst kind, with various shades in between. If she's responding to your texts then that's a good sign. Have you asked her out yet?
oaks Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Oh, your other question was when to ask her out. The answer is "before someone else does."
Author bsilmb Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 Well, you sound desperate. There aren't right or wrong answers to most of your questions. For example: some girls will love it if you text them every day and some will think you're a creep of the worst kind, with various shades in between. If she's responding to your texts then that's a good sign. Have you asked her out yet? yeah I get what your saying. I haven't been texting her that often, maybe every other day, sometimes longer. I have no problem talking to her face to face but there seems like less time lately. we always have our own work to do and get to talk a LITTLE bit, not much. I think she's somewhat disappointed that I don't talk to her more the way some of her texts come across. but any ways since she always seems to leave class with her friend, I just have trouble approaching, it just doesn't seem right. I was thinking maybe I could like send her a text tonight saying something like "hey can I talk to you after sixth hour tomorrow?" then that way she knows I want to talk and then I'll just askher to the dance? good or bad idea, any tips?
Bridgey Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 yeah I get what your saying. I haven't been texting her that often, maybe every other day, sometimes longer. I have no problem talking to her face to face but there seems like less time lately. we always have our own work to do and get to talk a LITTLE bit, not much. I think she's somewhat disappointed that I don't talk to her more the way some of her texts come across. but any ways since she always seems to leave class with her friend, I just have trouble approaching, it just doesn't seem right. I was thinking maybe I could like send her a text tonight saying something like "hey can I talk to you after sixth hour tomorrow?" then that way she knows I want to talk and then I'll just askher to the dance? good or bad idea, any tips? Sending her a text asking if you can talk to her makes this sound way more serious than it should be. You're asking her to a school dance, just play it off cool. Maybe just ask her in a text? Or when you guys are talking one on one bring up the dance in conversation and ask if she'd like to go with you. The worst thing that will happen is she'll say no
Author bsilmb Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 Sending her a text asking if you can talk to her makes this sound way more serious than it should be. You're asking her to a school dance, just play it off cool. Maybe just ask her in a text? Or when you guys are talking one on one bring up the dance in conversation and ask if she'd like to go with you. The worst thing that will happen is she'll say no yeah right after I posted it, I knew it seemed too serious considering how playful and fun we are around each other. I think the nextchance I get one on one with her I'll ask and if I dontge the opportunity, I'll call her and ask so I don't seem like a poosey hah. thing that sucks is, I might not even have a ride and all they so at dances is grind. it will just be interesting I guess. would it be dumb to possibly see if I could get a ride from her? thanks!
Author bsilmb Posted January 28, 2011 Author Posted January 28, 2011 yeah right after I posted it, I knew it seemed too serious considering how playful and fun we are around each other. I think the nextchance I get one on one with her I'll ask and if I dontge the opportunity, I'll call her and ask so I don't seem like a poosey hah. thing that sucks is, I might not even have a ride and all they so at dances is grind. it will just be interesting I guess. would it be dumb to possibly see if I could get a ride from her? thanks! anybody have any input on this?
oaks Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 I've forgotten what it's like to be 16. I think you just have to ask her out and if it goes wrong then try to learn something from it.
Author bsilmb Posted January 28, 2011 Author Posted January 28, 2011 I've forgotten what it's like to be 16. I think you just have to ask her out and if it goes wrong then try to learn something from it. yeah i have really just gotten the mindset that I need to just be ballsy and not worry about what might happen and jut go for it. I definitely plan on just doing it next week during our afterschool work. I usually text her every other day or so, but then sometimes she will intiate it, like she did last night at 10:30. I'm sure she's just throwing all the signs at me, but I tend to come up with reasons for why she doesn't like me like that. but I'm asking her out, and that's that:)
denise_xo Posted January 28, 2011 Posted January 28, 2011 yeah i have really just gotten the mindset that I need to just be ballsy and not worry about what might happen and jut go for it. I definitely plan on just doing it next week during our afterschool work. I usually text her every other day or so, but then sometimes she will intiate it, like she did last night at 10:30. I'm sure she's just throwing all the signs at me, but I tend to come up with reasons for why she doesn't like me like that. but I'm asking her out, and that's that:) I 'lost' a pretty amazing man over the bit in bold. Don't repeat my mistake. Now, when I'm hesitant about doing something I often ask myself 'what's the worst case scenario' and when I think that through calmly, it's usually not bad at all. In any case, it sounds from your OP like she's interested. Good luck
Author bsilmb Posted January 28, 2011 Author Posted January 28, 2011 I 'lost' a pretty amazing man over the bit in bold. Don't repeat my mistake. Now, when I'm hesitant about doing something I often ask myself 'what's the worst case scenario' and when I think that through calmly, it's usually not bad at all. In any case, it sounds from your OP like she's interested. Good luck thanks for all the support through all these threads i've made. but I've actually had a few about this girl. she's been on my mind off and on since august, and I just gotta give it it a shot
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