Vickstar Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 my ex bf is no longer friends with me on facebook (deleted me about a month ago) and i accept that its completely over. We still have tagged photos of us together, i deleted the ones of us kissing. I dont want to delete all my pics because at the end of the day these are great memories ive had from a great year and not just with him but with his friends, with my friends etc I dont look through the pics that often but when i do i dont cry and torture myself, i look through them feeling a little sad but at the same time i feel ok and i remember how great that time was and even find myself laughing at some of them. Is this delaying the healing process without realising it? does anyone else keep there photos for memories?
Jdw_Icequeen Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 I think it depends on who you are.. I have deleted all my photos thrown away cards etc. Anything that reminds me of him. I still have a few of us together when we had our son. I will delete those to eventually but I never look at them. For me it delays the healing, even to see a picture of him at this point. I still have to see him when he comes to pick up his son. Thats been hard enough on me. If you don't feel bad when looking at them and it dosen't make you fall into dwelling on the past, then thats fine.. Alot of people though probably wouldn't do it. As even the good memories can be painful at the beginning. It does also depend on how long you have been broken up.
J0N Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 It's hard to say. I am keeping mine, because there are many great memories, I am avoiding looking at them until after I am over her. I also have only been on Facebook maybe five times since we broke up.
KYoung2200 Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 I deleted everything. I threw everything away that we bought together. There's literally nothing that was hers or 'ours' around here.
D78 Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 I think if you can keep the pictures without feeling sad, you should keep them. I have a few pictures of my ex on FB that I don't plan to delete because they are good memories. It's strange because actual photos in my house I can't handle. They are all in a spare closet.
fiat500 Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 i deleted everything. there's no proof that he existed in my life. everything is in my broken heart now. i deleted my facebook. it brings nothing but pain.
Kansas Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 I took every photo and card that he gave me and ripped it to shreds. Then had a lovely mini-bonfire. It was actually quite cathartic.
Username37 Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 I still have a few pictures of me and my ex, but they're with friends and stuff. Don't destroy or delete any pictures. Simply set them aside somewhere. Or if they are on FB, save them in a folder and store them in a external harddrive or something. All the pics that was just her and I are on an album and on her computer (which I'm sure she deleted)
Floridaman Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 I have pitched most pics I have of former GFs I dated in the 80s and early 90s. There are some I wish I kept, but what's done is done... One came from grandma who happened to have a pic of me and the EX during a visit in a scrapbook. It was kind of painful to look at when I discovered it, but I later scanned it and discarded the original. The woman looked so beautiful and physically resembles the woman I married.... I don't of course want my wife seeing any of these and I'll be the first to admit I'm not comfortable having a lot of photos like this. Mainly for the hurt I get looking at them.
screwball Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 I kept all the photos. Hard copies in a box in a closet and the digital ones on a external drive. Never had a book face. I appreciate the time that she was in my life (all relationships are finite) and I just can't pretend that the time together never existed. I think part of coping is accepting that the relationship happened and it was good for you in some way or at least you learned something from it. Pretending that the relationship didn't exist will prolong the pain.
Ajax Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 I kept pictures and memorabilia in a box out of site for about 5 months. I'm a pretty sentimental guy, and I wanted to remember the good times. But I just couldn't move on. A few weeks ago I incinerated everything and threw her townhouse key into the bay. Now there's no evidence that she ever existed in my life, which is fine because apparently she purged the memories of me too.
EmperorR Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 I deleted and threw away everything. Sometimes I wish I kept some pictures on a thumb drive somewhere and handed it to my mom or something. Ah well, I threw away clothes, electronics everything.
strangeways Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Got rid of everything straight away except photos. They're stored out of harms way for now until I'm completely over it. I never delete photos. It's all part of my history however bad the experience seems right now. I'll be able to look at them again some day.
Fern Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Deleted everything except a couple of pictures of us doing godparents for my neice and a few of him and his daughter. Felt better after deleting them. Don't regret it yet.
marqueemoon4 Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 i gave her back all her xmas and birthday gifts she gave me. don't want 'em. of course she kept all the high dollar stuff I gave her.
melenkurion Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 He deleted himself from facebook one week after d-day. I deleted all facebook pics and all flickr pics of him over Christmas. I felt it was hindering me having them there. I also deleted all pictures of him that I had on my phone. It helped, definitely. I've deleted all pictures of him from the PC, but archived them. Maybe one day I will want to look at them, but I don't want to come across them when looking at other stuff.
Mrlonelyone Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 I have pictures and memorabilia from my more significant ex's. I look upon them as fond reminders of the good times not of the hurt of loosing them from my life. I guess I can do that because I got to know my more significant ex's well enough to know that they are just humans. Their **** stank like anyone's did. It helps to remember the bad times too. That makes it hard for me to feel sad about any one ex.
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