Lucky555 Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 my guy just tells me out of the blue someone (a girl) is moving into a place he lives in and then he said "you better watch out". (why does he say this?? out of the blue) Immediately I asked him why he would say something like that..then he says oh hes just kidding and then goes on about how the way i said it indicates that im jealous and insecure. I think i have a right to ask why the guy im sleeping with is telling me to watch out. How does someone joke about that?? So then i said oh ok and i let it go. However he kept going on how i need to tell him my feelings basically he wanted to get me to say that i was jealous and insecure. Actually, i wasn't I really just wanted to know why i needed to watch out..what was he going to pursue this other girl?, was he interested in her?, was he planning on ending it. It seemed like he was on some kind of ego trip maybe? It hurt me big time that he said that because it seems like he was manipulating me. He then takes it further and decided to ignore me and say that he could foresee me accusing him of sleeping with someone else ect. I am absolutely appalled i have never done this we have been together for 2 months where is this coming from! He also said he had been treating me like crap this past week..which i noticed he was acting weird but i have enough on my plate and i dont really want to deal with b.s. right at the moment. Bottom line is i think HE is feeling insecure. I was so happy with him until he said that "joke" which i was willing to brush off but he turned it into a whole big thing. It hurt alot. After that i was so turned off..then he goes and says like 10 minutes later he was over himself being mad at me. WHAT? Then he tells me about how great it would be to have "makeup sex". WHAT? I was so turned off by that point. I personally dont like drama or fights or madness. I just want to be happy is that really so much to ask for. I told him it was upsetting me and its like it didnt matter. Another thing he keeps asking me what i do all day and my schedule ect. I have told him what i do and he just keeps asking me. He NEVER tells me his schedule. So ya i was totally happy before seeing my guy. Then he acts like its nothing and he also is ignoring my message that i sent him today. Him picking a fight, him ignoring my messages, him telling me he was treating me like crap with no explanation, THIS IS weird and does it imply he wants me to break up with him??
depplover_1980 Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 This guy is a needy mouse. I would put some cheese down and chop of his tail when he isn't looking...
iJester Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 Get out now, or the games will continue. Or you can up the ante and talk about a guy you met at work/the gym/wherever.
Author Lucky555 Posted January 24, 2011 Author Posted January 24, 2011 so i will talk to him tonight to address issues he has. Clearly there is stuff he NEEDS to get off his chest. I am secure enough with my self that I can either stay or go. I got into this relationship to give it a chance. Yes i took a chance at finding love but evidently all im finding is drama. My life is too stressful for any more stress. I just want to be happy and i have the right to be happy with or without him! lol
Nexus One Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 (edited) I agree that he was playing a (mind) game masked in a supposed joke. He tried to evoke something out of you in order to remove a possible insecurity he had. I have not often seen men do that, but apparently there are guys that do that. Are you sure though you're not overreacting if you realize this? It's a possible insecurity on his side. You could press on that fact, but to what end? Would you really want him to admit that as some sort of punishment? Because if you do, then you too would be playing a game. But that's just my opinion on it. Edited January 25, 2011 by Nexus One
Author Lucky555 Posted January 25, 2011 Author Posted January 25, 2011 I agree that he was playing a (mind) game masked in a supposed joke. He tried to evoke something out of you in order to remove a possible insecurity he had. I have not often seen men do that, but apparently there are guys that do that. Are you sure though you're not overreacting if you realize this? It's a possible insecurity on his side. You could press on that fact, but to what end? Would you really want him to admit that as some sort of punishment? Because if you do, then you too would be playing a game. But that's just my opinion on it. Well it's not just the comment he made joking but the other stuff he said like he said he was treating my like crap..which I know he was being a jerk but I always kept my cool and stood my ground. He said it more like I'm being passive. It was a bunch of random stuff he came up with to cause drama. It's ok to me if he's insecure and trying to get a reaction but the way he was acting towards me being manipulative is not healthy. Even after I said I rather just talk. It could also be he wants to be single maybe I have no clue. I just want to know what is going on in his mind because he he wants out I rather know than waste any time. If he is feeling insecure it's only becusse he won't make time for us. He was so odd I felt like I was with a stranger maybe because this could be the real him..and I'm only just finding out. So it's not that I want to press him it all just didn't make any sense to me. It was upsetting for me ruined the night and my morning I was just so upset because things were fine it's like he wanted to create drama.
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