fishtaco Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 I don't see what the big deal is. If "league" is such a bad word, we can randomly pick another word to mean "A has no chance with B", which is very much a real life occurrence. And if you disagree, and everyone always have a chance with anyone else, then I would like to sign up to enter your world. Because there are a number of Hollywood actresses that I'd like to hook up with.
Author PJKino Posted January 25, 2011 Author Posted January 25, 2011 I'm not gonna lie, I usually try to get over the "she's outta my league" mentality, since I basically have that opinion towards 90% of the women I see on a daily basis. I'm in, like, class 0, or whatever the lowest league level is, lol. But I saw a very beautiful woman today, and while she stared at me for a moment, I looked at her and realized I wouldn't have a chance in hell with someone as beautiful as her. This usually puts me into a position where I'm too petrified to ask a woman out. Doesn't feel good, man. That's life, tho, and quite understandable. It would really be nice to feel desirable in a woman's eyes. It's...just something I have yet to experience. Same here im not attractive to most women..It would feel nice to be considered attractive but such is life
stepka Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 I don't see what the big deal is. If "league" is such a bad word, we can randomly pick another word to mean "A has no chance with B", which is very much a real life occurrence. And if you disagree, and everyone always have a chance with anyone else, then I would like to sign up to enter your world. Because there are a number of Hollywood actresses that I'd like to hook up with. I was going to say this but you said it better. Those who are sneering at the idea of leagues aren't thinking about the many times they've not even glanced at someone not in their league. They're thinking maybe of ones who are in their league but they've rejected for reasons other than looks. It's not a surprise--we do it so subconsciously that we don't even realize we're doing it most of the time. But you can call it what you want--it doesn't change the social behavior. It's very disconcerting for some people who enter a new stage of their life to figure out where they stand and what kind of partner they can aspire to. Like if you've been married for 30 years and then you get a divorce and want to date and you have no idea what you look like any more. You see some good looking people with great personalities and you want to flirt, but are concerned about making a fool out of yourself. Or the people who do flirt with you aren't quite what you had in mind, and then someone movie star handsome tries to flirt with you and you don't know how to take it. Or. . . well you get the picture. Don't assume though that any person you're looking to hook up with has the sure knowledge of where they stand on the attractiveness stratum, b/c I'm still pretty confused myself.
Billy_Boy Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 I dont see what the fuss is about either, there are definitely leagues. Theyre not easy to define, but they are intuitively understood usually. For example, my ex gf called me recently, she is having some issues with this guy she is trying to get with, former male model, owns a hedge fund, brilliant, out going, yet humble and kind very wealthy etc, she doesnt understand why that after a few months of on and off dating he hasnt asked her to be exclusive yet. She said one day she slept over his house and stayed in his guestroom, which doubles as an office, she went to log onto the computer to check her facebook or whatever in the morning and his yahoo email was open and she said there were 100s of emails from match.com and women throwing themselves at him. And why not, I saw his picture he is an attractive guy and if he is rich AND humble like she says, then he likely has his pick of the crop. I tried explaining to her the idea of "he might be a little bit above your league" and that if she wants to stop driving herself crazy with wondering why he isnt making a move to be exclusive with her, she needs to up the ante and be a little bit more aggressive because basically she is under his league and he has many options as seen by the emails. That she probably wanted to be with him more then he wanted to settle down exactly... Which, why would he? hes young, rich, professional, and attractive. She is the one doing the chasing. Because she is under his league. Its not nice, and its not a good thing, but people usually get with people in a comparable league. physically, socio economically, mentally. Thats a fact of life. There is a little wiggle room for wealth and great personality, but not a ton. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, this is true, but the eye of the beholder is also subject to pleasing those in his family and around him, and he/she will look for what they feel they are worth. Would you ever see Brad Pitt marry some 350 lbs, woman from some trailer park in Montana? I seriously doubt it.
Mad Max Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 ^^ I'm surprised you actually talked with your ex. If that was my ex, I'd tell her he's her problem and not to call me with her problems.
Star Gazer Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 You sure you're being totally honest with yourself? I'm just saying that because I used to think of many people as being 'creepy' or 'gross' (or maybe I just wasn't all-that-sexual) before realizing that there was nothing wrong with any of those people. I was just unfairly passing my above-average expectations upon the average. I think it's nicer, actually, to realize that. I think I am. I really don't think in terms of "leagues." The person either has what I'm looking for, or they don't. Beyond that, there's no classification or league.
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