Mixed28 Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 My ex has a new Boyfriend who she is crazy about (she dumped me). She has never been dumped and I still have feelings for her but part of me wants her to go through what she put me through. Have you had this feeling before?
Rose T Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 Oh yes!!! there are plenty of us on here. Particularly if you got dumped for the new person, then a big dose of dumpee karma would do nicely! What's not to like?
Duckduckgoose Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 A lot of dumpees fantasize about the person who hurt them so getting hurt so much in return. It seems to be part of the healing process. You want revenge and karma to come back on someone who has hurt you so much! Eventually when you have healed up and moved on, you won't even care if they get dumped. Yeah you will hear about it and be like "haha" but you won't give much thought to it otherwise. I had a an ex-bf that left me for a chick he knew I hated. He got engaged to her a year later. They didn't work out, and by the time I found out, I didn't even care enough to say more than "haha". I still think about it sometimes, but it's not a big factor like it used to be. Honestly I hope he finds happiness in this life, with whoever he is dating now.
radiodarcy Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 absolutely! he made it a point to tell me he was going to do online dating and find his "match". boy did that sting. what's more he told me that if we were still to be friends then i needed to be an adult, suck it up and listen to him talk about the women he's dating. needless to say i went NC soon after that. as far as i know he hasn't found the woman of his dreams. but i can honestly say i hope he hasn't. it doesn't seem fair after the way he left me feeling so lonely and miserable.
melenkurion Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Oh yes! I'm not even particularly secret about it. I hope to move on to not caring at all about their relationship. Not for them, but for me. However, it's only just over three months so I'm still fairly raw from the cheating.
Fern Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Yup! To the detriment of my own healing probably. I'm hoping it will pass.
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