justaname Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 i woke up this morning and all of the crazy intense emotions (which were there last night, even) seem to have dropped away. we haven't not been in contact. this has happened before, then they came back. but this time maybe it's fear at how intense things have started to get?
blinded_27 Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 (edited) uhh yah they'll probably come back. Depending on how far along into the A you are. I've had many days where I was like SWEET!!!!! Emotions GONE, time to move on. *sigh* but the very next day.... How long have you been in this for? I strongly advise you to encourage these feelings of lost emotions and start to detach yourself before things get too intense that you completely lose yourself in it... Funny, I was just looking back at some of my emails from early June to my MM. Man, I was SO STRONG then!!!! I was all like, "OH NO YOU DID NOT!!!!" and could have walked away in a heartbeat. But I kept going back because I never thought I'd get attached and there was no harm in just keeping him around as a "friend" and just to see where things might go... now I'm just his little doormat and let him trample all over me. I regret not listening to my gut. Now I'm too lost in everything. Walk away NOW if you still have any of that strength left. I cannot preach this enough to OW/OM early on in their affairs. Edited January 24, 2011 by blinded_27
half_ofa_heart Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 uhh yah they'll probably come back. Depending on how far along into the A you are. I've had many days where I was like SWEET!!!!! Emotions GONE, time to move on. *sigh* but the very next day.... How long have you been in this for? I strongly advise you to encourage these feelings of lost emotions and start to detach yourself before things get too intense that you completely lose yourself in it... Funny, I was just looking back at some of my emails from early June to my MM. Man, I was SO STRONG then!!!! I was all like, "OH NO YOU DID NOT!!!!" and could have walked away in a heartbeat. But I kept going back because I never thought I'd get attached and there was no harm in just keeping him around as a "friend" and just to see where things might go... now I'm just his little doormat and let him trample all over me. I regret not listening to my gut. Now I'm too lost in everything. Walk away NOW if you still have any of that strength left. I cannot preach this enough to OW/OM early on in their affairs. I could not ephasize this anymore than Blinded has!!!! Latch on to any strength you have to get out ASAP! An A will only weaken your ability to stand up for yourself and for what's right. Get out now!
Owl Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 Your feelings are going to come and go...like the ups and downs on a rollercoaster. The trick is to use them to accomplish your goals. When you wake up feeling 'removed' from the situation...use that. Use it to make positive changes to improve the situation. Such as removing the MM/MW from your contact list, blocking their phone number emails, etc... Then when you're on the downward slide, you've taken positive steps to ensure that you stay on track towards your goals.
Author justaname Posted January 25, 2011 Author Posted January 25, 2011 yeah, they came back. but i get the feeling that most people are in simpler situations than i am if they can just walk away/block calls/etc., and don't have their life completely tangled up in the other person's. besides, i really don't want to.
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